Why does no one seem to want to go down on me? /u/Previous-Regular-966 Sex

I (27F) have been feeling really self-conscious because most people I’ve been with avoid going down on me. I take care of myself, maintain good hygiene, and always make an effort to make my partner feel good, but whenever I bring it up, they usually say something like “I will” or make vague promises, and it just never happens.

It’s hard not to feel like this is a “me” problem, but I also wonder if it’s more about their preferences or comfort levels. I don’t want to come across as pushy, but I also feel like I’m missing out on a part of intimacy that’s really important to me.

For those who’ve been in similar situations, how did you handle it? Is this something worth bringing up directly, or is it better to let it go? I’d love some advice on how to navigate this without letting it hurt my confidence or affect my connection with future partners.

Thanks in advance for your insights—I really want to approach this with self-awareness and respect!

I (27F) have been feeling really self-conscious because most people I’ve been with avoid going down on me. I take care of myself, maintain good hygiene, and always make an effort to make my partner feel good, but whenever I bring it up, they usually say something like “I will” or make vague promises, and it just never happens.

It’s hard not to feel like this is a “me” problem, but I also wonder if it’s more about their preferences or comfort levels. I don’t want to come across as pushy, but I also feel like I’m missing out on a part of intimacy that’s really important to me.

For those who’ve been in similar situations, how did you handle it? Is this something worth bringing up directly, or is it better to let it go? I’d love some advice on how to navigate this without letting it hurt my confidence or affect my connection with future partners.

Thanks in advance for your insights—I really want to approach this with self-awareness and respect!