A little problem with my bf /u/cat_lady0308 Sex

I am (f27) dating my boyfriend (m24) for almost a year. We get along well, we love each other, and we don’t have any big problems in the relationship. You could simply say that we are a normal, healthy couple. But there is one problem that I’m not only a little ashamed of, but also feel uncomfortable when I think about it.

Well, my boyfriend is a virgin, he never felt “this” kind of touch before, and he sometimes tries to be intimate with me (more than cuddles and stuff). He knows about my past two relationships, when I was 20 my virginity was taken by force by one of my past “boyfriends” and I just can tell I’m traumatized in a sexual way.

Lately, my boyfriend tries to convince me to finally have sex (I haven’t done it in 6 years). When I refuse him, he tries to understand and lets it go, but I blame myself for being a bad girlfriend and not wanting to have sex with the person I love. I am aware some of you will say “take it slow, give it time” but everytime I think about this kind of activity, it’s just disgust me. My body and mind don’t let me do that. Also I rarely get aroused in any way.

I have been to a sexologist, but all she told me was to talk to my boyfriend about it and come to an agreement. I’ve talked to him about it many times, he tells me it’s okay, he’ll wait, well, but as guys do, they always have a higher libido and he can even beg me for it. I don’t want to be a bad girl for him. I am afraid that at some point he will find someone else, because he can’t be intimate with me.

I don’t really know what to do. I just hate sex.

I am (f27) dating my boyfriend (m24) for almost a year. We get along well, we love each other, and we don’t have any big problems in the relationship. You could simply say that we are a normal, healthy couple. But there is one problem that I’m not only a little ashamed of, but also feel uncomfortable when I think about it.

Well, my boyfriend is a virgin, he never felt “this” kind of touch before, and he sometimes tries to be intimate with me (more than cuddles and stuff). He knows about my past two relationships, when I was 20 my virginity was taken by force by one of my past “boyfriends” and I just can tell I’m traumatized in a sexual way.

Lately, my boyfriend tries to convince me to finally have sex (I haven’t done it in 6 years). When I refuse him, he tries to understand and lets it go, but I blame myself for being a bad girlfriend and not wanting to have sex with the person I love. I am aware some of you will say “take it slow, give it time” but everytime I think about this kind of activity, it’s just disgust me. My body and mind don’t let me do that. Also I rarely get aroused in any way.

I have been to a sexologist, but all she told me was to talk to my boyfriend about it and come to an agreement. I’ve talked to him about it many times, he tells me it’s okay, he’ll wait, well, but as guys do, they always have a higher libido and he can even beg me for it. I don’t want to be a bad girl for him. I am afraid that at some point he will find someone else, because he can’t be intimate with me.

I don’t really know what to do. I just hate sex.