Does he actually respect consent? /u/Caramelax21 Sex

Went on a casual dating app and met some guy. The guy wanted to get to know me and said he did legal work in cybersecurity. It was obvious he had a decent job given the setup of his place. Then he invited me to his “guest bedroom” that he calls it. I went to the “guest bedroom” and realized this just might be a weekend rental or maybe his second home assuming he has a second life. It was creepy. Found out on the internet he had an apartment in the City in addition to this one that I was at in his “guest room” long story short of the “red flags”….

I had asked him if he wanted to have sex and move on. We went to the guest room and just as we were getting naked he asked me if he could use his sex toys on me. I said No thanks. And thought… wtf? Then I had told him to Not record me. It was strange because he kept sending me videos of other women he was having sex with. I had asked him to stop sending the videos because I have a family. He continued sending them anyway. Just like when I had asked him not to record us… he did not seem to understand so for the less than one minute of his manhood being inside of me I had said: You know what? This isn’t going to work. “Why? What did I do wrong?” I don’t think you get it. I don’t really want to be recorded. He had asked me if he could drive me home I said he could drop me off at the public transit system in a very well lit crowded place. He had insisted that I wait in his car while he opened his door for me. I was very confused because here is this guy who says he is all about consent, praising women yet the entire experience to me seemed like an act. I guess my post is more a warning story because the last time I was in a similar situation the person tried to unalive me. And at that time they seemed very normal until I found a stray jacket inside of their closet and he said “Oops! I forgot to close that! That’s for my BDSM orgies.” I know this sounds bad but I am a strong person and these people came into my life to survive them to warn others that men and women can be dangerous. Look for the red flags and leave without any second thoughts.

Went on a casual dating app and met some guy. The guy wanted to get to know me and said he did legal work in cybersecurity. It was obvious he had a decent job given the setup of his place. Then he invited me to his “guest bedroom” that he calls it. I went to the “guest bedroom” and realized this just might be a weekend rental or maybe his second home assuming he has a second life. It was creepy. Found out on the internet he had an apartment in the City in addition to this one that I was at in his “guest room” long story short of the “red flags”….

I had asked him if he wanted to have sex and move on. We went to the guest room and just as we were getting naked he asked me if he could use his sex toys on me. I said No thanks. And thought… wtf? Then I had told him to Not record me. It was strange because he kept sending me videos of other women he was having sex with. I had asked him to stop sending the videos because I have a family. He continued sending them anyway. Just like when I had asked him not to record us… he did not seem to understand so for the less than one minute of his manhood being inside of me I had said: You know what? This isn’t going to work. “Why? What did I do wrong?” I don’t think you get it. I don’t really want to be recorded. He had asked me if he could drive me home I said he could drop me off at the public transit system in a very well lit crowded place. He had insisted that I wait in his car while he opened his door for me. I was very confused because here is this guy who says he is all about consent, praising women yet the entire experience to me seemed like an act. I guess my post is more a warning story because the last time I was in a similar situation the person tried to unalive me. And at that time they seemed very normal until I found a stray jacket inside of their closet and he said “Oops! I forgot to close that! That’s for my BDSM orgies.” I know this sounds bad but I am a strong person and these people came into my life to survive them to warn others that men and women can be dangerous. Look for the red flags and leave without any second thoughts.