I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. Sexually, things are going pretty well, we’re getting to know each other. My only issue is that I almost never finish, whereas he does every time. The only times I’ve been able to come have been when I used my toy (a vibrator) on myself. Ideally, I’d love to use my toy regularly so I can finish during each encounter, just like he does. But I’m scared to ask him to use it.
He knows I can only orgasm with it, and I can see how much effort he puts into pleasing me every time. I’m worried he might take it the wrong way if I suggest doing things differently. He never suggests using the toy, and I’m not sure if that’s because it doesn’t cross his mind or if he’s uncomfortable with the idea… I know it’s my responsibility to communicate this with him, but I’m struggling to find the right words (i’m a big people pleaser and when it comes to sex I find it hard to prioritize my needs.) Do you have any advice?
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r/sex I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. Sexually, things are going pretty well, we’re getting to know each other. My only issue is that I almost never finish, whereas he does every time. The only times I’ve been able to come have been when I used my toy (a vibrator) on myself. Ideally, I’d love to use my toy regularly so I can finish during each encounter, just like he does. But I’m scared to ask him to use it. He knows I can only orgasm with it, and I can see how much effort he puts into pleasing me every time. I’m worried he might take it the wrong way if I suggest doing things differently. He never suggests using the toy, and I’m not sure if that’s because it doesn’t cross his mind or if he’s uncomfortable with the idea… I know it’s my responsibility to communicate this with him, but I’m struggling to find the right words (i’m a big people pleaser and when it comes to sex I find it hard to prioritize my needs.) Do you have any advice? submitted by /u/LilFrosting8 [link] [comments]
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. Sexually, things are going pretty well, we’re getting to know each other. My only issue is that I almost never finish, whereas he does every time. The only times I’ve been able to come have been when I used my toy (a vibrator) on myself. Ideally, I’d love to use my toy regularly so I can finish during each encounter, just like he does. But I’m scared to ask him to use it.
He knows I can only orgasm with it, and I can see how much effort he puts into pleasing me every time. I’m worried he might take it the wrong way if I suggest doing things differently. He never suggests using the toy, and I’m not sure if that’s because it doesn’t cross his mind or if he’s uncomfortable with the idea… I know it’s my responsibility to communicate this with him, but I’m struggling to find the right words (i’m a big people pleaser and when it comes to sex I find it hard to prioritize my needs.) Do you have any advice?
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