I want to want to have sex with my boyfriend /u/Petite_Curious Sex

I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for 5 years and half.

At the beginning of our relationship (and even before being with him), my libido was extremely high. We were long distance and would do it everytime we saw each other. Everyday, several times a day. I used to take a lot of pleasure from having sex with him, especially from penetration.

This lasted about 1-2 years. After that my libido declined little by little. First I thought that was because he gained a lot of weight, but he lost a bunch and I’m used to his new weight and think he is handsome (though I admit I am not really attracted to his body). He is a healthy weight and I’m fine with it.

Now my libido is near non existent for some unknown reason? I want to change that, I want to want to have sex, but I can’t control it. The only thing that gets me a bit aroused is porn. I’m not addicted, I used to watch it a lot when I was a teen and very young adult but I barely watch any now. But when I do watch some, I can feel my vagina/vulva area pulsating, which never happens with my boyfriend.

I wish I could initiate but I’m never aroused enough to feel comfortable initiating. Like I prefer if he tries to excite me to the roof but that never happens. Not that he doesn’t try, he does, but when he touches me I’m just feeling “meh”. I almost never masturbate as well, which I also used to do a lot when I was younger, and when I masturbate I orgasm in like 3 minutes. It takes ages with my boyfriend for me to orgasm even though I touch myself the same way.

There is more to add but long posts are not accepted so.. I just want some advice.

I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for 5 years and half.

At the beginning of our relationship (and even before being with him), my libido was extremely high. We were long distance and would do it everytime we saw each other. Everyday, several times a day. I used to take a lot of pleasure from having sex with him, especially from penetration.

This lasted about 1-2 years. After that my libido declined little by little. First I thought that was because he gained a lot of weight, but he lost a bunch and I’m used to his new weight and think he is handsome (though I admit I am not really attracted to his body). He is a healthy weight and I’m fine with it.

Now my libido is near non existent for some unknown reason? I want to change that, I want to want to have sex, but I can’t control it. The only thing that gets me a bit aroused is porn. I’m not addicted, I used to watch it a lot when I was a teen and very young adult but I barely watch any now. But when I do watch some, I can feel my vagina/vulva area pulsating, which never happens with my boyfriend.

I wish I could initiate but I’m never aroused enough to feel comfortable initiating. Like I prefer if he tries to excite me to the roof but that never happens. Not that he doesn’t try, he does, but when he touches me I’m just feeling “meh”. I almost never masturbate as well, which I also used to do a lot when I was younger, and when I masturbate I orgasm in like 3 minutes. It takes ages with my boyfriend for me to orgasm even though I touch myself the same way.

There is more to add but long posts are not accepted so.. I just want some advice.