Why do I get overstimulated so easy with partners but can orgasm fine on my own /u/Early-Trade-6502 Sex

anyone relate or have a similar experience? Im Kinda frustrated about it, but at the same time I really enjoy my sex life and it’s a lot of fun reaching that point. but I do wish I could orgasm with my current partner, it would be so satisfying.

so what happens with partners is that ill get all nice and turned on and wet, then when he goes to touch my clit/vulva area that first touch is always shocking. when I masturbate it doesnt feel so shocking. and then when he finds that sweet spot it feels amazing until suddenly it feels like too much, makes me feel like electrified. when I do that on my own, it feels amazing and then I cum. sometimes he tells me to touch myself but I cant rlly get to that place when hes watching me, It feels like too much pressure (I had an ex who’d get mad at me for not cumming during sex, and for being selfish during sex, so I just get stressed and want to focus on him instead). I told my current partner about this and he said theres no pressure and I shouldn’t feel bad, it’s okay and it will happen when it happens.

PIV also gets me very close, but usually with PIV it gives me a really strong feeling of needing to pee (which I know everyone says is squirt but its pee to me) so I always wanna tone it down when I reach that point. sometimes he also plays w my clit or kisses my neck or grabs my boob/nipple while in me, and that makes me lose it. I feel like I get stupid or something because it feels so crazy but also like way too much is going on and I cant really focus on a feeling. its pretty overwhelming tbh, but not in a negative way I love when he does that lol. I think when he hits my gspot is when I get that needing to pee feeling, I told him this too and he said just to let it go but peeing is not a bedroom activity to me so idk I feel like I have a really big mental wall.

I know this post is VERY TMI, im really hoping someone reads and sees something that sounds familiar. I included a lot of detail to show that I dont think its him not touching me right. And I know what an orgasm feels like because I get there on my own with no problem when theres no one in bed w me. I was thinking of trying to find some type of female sexuality organization or something, maybe talking in person would be better than online. part of me wonders If it’s because sex feels too good for me. bc sometimes when I masturbate I get that same overwhelmed/electric feeling if Im using a vibrator, where it borderline hurts actually lol. the more I use it the less I get that feeling tho so idk if I have to just push thru during sex idk.

anyone relate or have a similar experience? Im Kinda frustrated about it, but at the same time I really enjoy my sex life and it’s a lot of fun reaching that point. but I do wish I could orgasm with my current partner, it would be so satisfying.

so what happens with partners is that ill get all nice and turned on and wet, then when he goes to touch my clit/vulva area that first touch is always shocking. when I masturbate it doesnt feel so shocking. and then when he finds that sweet spot it feels amazing until suddenly it feels like too much, makes me feel like electrified. when I do that on my own, it feels amazing and then I cum. sometimes he tells me to touch myself but I cant rlly get to that place when hes watching me, It feels like too much pressure (I had an ex who’d get mad at me for not cumming during sex, and for being selfish during sex, so I just get stressed and want to focus on him instead). I told my current partner about this and he said theres no pressure and I shouldn’t feel bad, it’s okay and it will happen when it happens.

PIV also gets me very close, but usually with PIV it gives me a really strong feeling of needing to pee (which I know everyone says is squirt but its pee to me) so I always wanna tone it down when I reach that point. sometimes he also plays w my clit or kisses my neck or grabs my boob/nipple while in me, and that makes me lose it. I feel like I get stupid or something because it feels so crazy but also like way too much is going on and I cant really focus on a feeling. its pretty overwhelming tbh, but not in a negative way I love when he does that lol. I think when he hits my gspot is when I get that needing to pee feeling, I told him this too and he said just to let it go but peeing is not a bedroom activity to me so idk I feel like I have a really big mental wall.

I know this post is VERY TMI, im really hoping someone reads and sees something that sounds familiar. I included a lot of detail to show that I dont think its him not touching me right. And I know what an orgasm feels like because I get there on my own with no problem when theres no one in bed w me. I was thinking of trying to find some type of female sexuality organization or something, maybe talking in person would be better than online. part of me wonders If it’s because sex feels too good for me. bc sometimes when I masturbate I get that same overwhelmed/electric feeling if Im using a vibrator, where it borderline hurts actually lol. the more I use it the less I get that feeling tho so idk if I have to just push thru during sex idk.