After a few years of being curious about this, I’ve recently found the urge to explore pegging coming up with more and more frequency. My wife has done some light anal play with me (toys, a finger, light oral) at some point, but we were younger, it was before we had kids and more time to go out on dates, drinking, etc.
I’ve been having dreams about getting pegged and it sort of just hit the point where I realized philosophically I want the type of relationship and sex life where I can speak completely freely (This is the first time there has been something I was not comfortable bringing up). My wife and I agreed we’re done having kids, and so I actually had my vasectomy last Friday morning. Since then, there has been serious mental liberation knowing that our family is complete and we’re both thrilled with the life we’ve built. Feels like we can stop ‘looking forward’ to the next thing we need to do (get engaged, get married, buy a house, get a dog, have a kid, have another kid etc) and go back to just having fun/enjoying our family and each other.
Its been 4 days now since I’ve ejaculated, and I’ve been incredibly horny while waiting for this Friday to come around and the healing to improve. I have been giving my wife oral, worshiping her ass, having her sit on my face etc in the mornings and evenings since then. I’m obviously extremely pent up and I found that not being able to orgasm (doctor’s order… told me to wait a week) meant that the urge to discuss pegging couldn’t be contained any longer.
Anyway, I brought it up with my wife after dropping the kids off at school over a coffee… I was extremely nervous, my heart was pounding through my chest. But I basically told myself its now, or it would come up later when this urge came back. I asked her if I hypothetically wanted to explore pegging, would she be interested to try it… and she replied, “yeah that sounds fun, I assumed we were headed down that route eventually anyway” (in recent months / weeks there has been more joking / alluding to it but we never discussed it seriously). I clarified that I didn’t want her to do it if she was absolutely not interested, but she confirmed she’s excited to try and likes the idea of being in charge. I admitted to her I was nervous to bring this up, she reassured me she loved me and that it would be fun.
Anyway on next steps she asked me to handle picking out the accessories and at some point I’m sure we’ll start to give it a try. Obviously we’ll start slow and ease into things but really this post is for me to get this huge weight off my chest and just be really happy / proud of my marriage, the trust I have with my wife and the relationship we have… I just feel really secure.
I guess I’m posting this because I don’t have anyone else to tell in real life (I already told my wife all this) and encourage anyone else in a similar situation – trust in your partner and don’t hide what you think might be interesting, fun, make you happy etc. We have to be true to ourselves and our loved ones. Obviously not everyone will have an open mind, but the relief I am feeling is primarily from bringing this topic up and speaking my mind, not even exploring the act.
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r/sex After a few years of being curious about this, I’ve recently found the urge to explore pegging coming up with more and more frequency. My wife has done some light anal play with me (toys, a finger, light oral) at some point, but we were younger, it was before we had kids and more time to go out on dates, drinking, etc. I’ve been having dreams about getting pegged and it sort of just hit the point where I realized philosophically I want the type of relationship and sex life where I can speak completely freely (This is the first time there has been something I was not comfortable bringing up). My wife and I agreed we’re done having kids, and so I actually had my vasectomy last Friday morning. Since then, there has been serious mental liberation knowing that our family is complete and we’re both thrilled with the life we’ve built. Feels like we can stop ‘looking forward’ to the next thing we need to do (get engaged, get married, buy a house, get a dog, have a kid, have another kid etc) and go back to just having fun/enjoying our family and each other. Its been 4 days now since I’ve ejaculated, and I’ve been incredibly horny while waiting for this Friday to come around and the healing to improve. I have been giving my wife oral, worshiping her ass, having her sit on my face etc in the mornings and evenings since then. I’m obviously extremely pent up and I found that not being able to orgasm (doctor’s order… told me to wait a week) meant that the urge to discuss pegging couldn’t be contained any longer. Anyway, I brought it up with my wife after dropping the kids off at school over a coffee… I was extremely nervous, my heart was pounding through my chest. But I basically told myself its now, or it would come up later when this urge came back. I asked her if I hypothetically wanted to explore pegging, would she be interested to try it… and she replied, “yeah that sounds fun, I assumed we were headed down that route eventually anyway” (in recent months / weeks there has been more joking / alluding to it but we never discussed it seriously). I clarified that I didn’t want her to do it if she was absolutely not interested, but she confirmed she’s excited to try and likes the idea of being in charge. I admitted to her I was nervous to bring this up, she reassured me she loved me and that it would be fun. Anyway on next steps she asked me to handle picking out the accessories and at some point I’m sure we’ll start to give it a try. Obviously we’ll start slow and ease into things but really this post is for me to get this huge weight off my chest and just be really happy / proud of my marriage, the trust I have with my wife and the relationship we have… I just feel really secure. I guess I’m posting this because I don’t have anyone else to tell in real life (I already told my wife all this) and encourage anyone else in a similar situation – trust in your partner and don’t hide what you think might be interesting, fun, make you happy etc. We have to be true to ourselves and our loved ones. Obviously not everyone will have an open mind, but the relief I am feeling is primarily from bringing this topic up and speaking my mind, not even exploring the act. submitted by /u/obviouslynotme1 [link] [comments]
After a few years of being curious about this, I’ve recently found the urge to explore pegging coming up with more and more frequency. My wife has done some light anal play with me (toys, a finger, light oral) at some point, but we were younger, it was before we had kids and more time to go out on dates, drinking, etc.
I’ve been having dreams about getting pegged and it sort of just hit the point where I realized philosophically I want the type of relationship and sex life where I can speak completely freely (This is the first time there has been something I was not comfortable bringing up). My wife and I agreed we’re done having kids, and so I actually had my vasectomy last Friday morning. Since then, there has been serious mental liberation knowing that our family is complete and we’re both thrilled with the life we’ve built. Feels like we can stop ‘looking forward’ to the next thing we need to do (get engaged, get married, buy a house, get a dog, have a kid, have another kid etc) and go back to just having fun/enjoying our family and each other.
Its been 4 days now since I’ve ejaculated, and I’ve been incredibly horny while waiting for this Friday to come around and the healing to improve. I have been giving my wife oral, worshiping her ass, having her sit on my face etc in the mornings and evenings since then. I’m obviously extremely pent up and I found that not being able to orgasm (doctor’s order… told me to wait a week) meant that the urge to discuss pegging couldn’t be contained any longer.
Anyway, I brought it up with my wife after dropping the kids off at school over a coffee… I was extremely nervous, my heart was pounding through my chest. But I basically told myself its now, or it would come up later when this urge came back. I asked her if I hypothetically wanted to explore pegging, would she be interested to try it… and she replied, “yeah that sounds fun, I assumed we were headed down that route eventually anyway” (in recent months / weeks there has been more joking / alluding to it but we never discussed it seriously). I clarified that I didn’t want her to do it if she was absolutely not interested, but she confirmed she’s excited to try and likes the idea of being in charge. I admitted to her I was nervous to bring this up, she reassured me she loved me and that it would be fun.
Anyway on next steps she asked me to handle picking out the accessories and at some point I’m sure we’ll start to give it a try. Obviously we’ll start slow and ease into things but really this post is for me to get this huge weight off my chest and just be really happy / proud of my marriage, the trust I have with my wife and the relationship we have… I just feel really secure.
I guess I’m posting this because I don’t have anyone else to tell in real life (I already told my wife all this) and encourage anyone else in a similar situation – trust in your partner and don’t hide what you think might be interesting, fun, make you happy etc. We have to be true to ourselves and our loved ones. Obviously not everyone will have an open mind, but the relief I am feeling is primarily from bringing this topic up and speaking my mind, not even exploring the act.
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