Boyfriend and I love giving but struggle receiving /u/Neither-Ad8613 Sex

(Not on my main) I’m 20(f) dating my boyfriend 21(m). We are starting to have sex and discovered that both of us are very into giving. I’m very dominant and he’s submissive. Historically, I’ve been more of a pleasure dom, and him a service sub. Short put, we both love giving. I kiss/tease him for hours at a time. He also has expressed a huge interest in eating me out/fingering me, and says he would eagerly do it for as long as I wanted and would love to do it for extended periods of time. He often makes comments (consensually) about wanting to taste me and how much he would enjoy it and generally pleasing me. I don’t feel pressured though in any sort. Vise versa is true for me, I love bjs and anything where I can see my partner melting. We both focus mostly on the other’s enjoyment to the point we forget our own.

I think there’s some kind of mental block. In the past, I’ve always been uncomfortable with receiving because partners have made a fuss over it or found it gross. I understand this is a dogshit perspective but still struggle with the insecurity of it. I get in my head and can’t enjoy what’s happening. I told my boyfriend about this and learned he is similar. He struggles to enjoy acts that are focused on just him because he thinks too hard about it and the anxiety kills the pleasure.

It’s something both of us want to learn. We have worked our way up to this point so I’d say we’re comfortable with each other, our bodies, and each other’s bodies. We’re passionate and have healthy and honest communication. We just need advice on how to get over the mental barrier.

How can we get over this, or ease our way into enjoying solo attention? Any mindsets or conversations that would be helpful? Any advice or activities you can think of?

Thanks!

edited some grammar mistakes

(Not on my main) I’m 20(f) dating my boyfriend 21(m). We are starting to have sex and discovered that both of us are very into giving. I’m very dominant and he’s submissive. Historically, I’ve been more of a pleasure dom, and him a service sub. Short put, we both love giving. I kiss/tease him for hours at a time. He also has expressed a huge interest in eating me out/fingering me, and says he would eagerly do it for as long as I wanted and would love to do it for extended periods of time. He often makes comments (consensually) about wanting to taste me and how much he would enjoy it and generally pleasing me. I don’t feel pressured though in any sort. Vise versa is true for me, I love bjs and anything where I can see my partner melting. We both focus mostly on the other’s enjoyment to the point we forget our own.

I think there’s some kind of mental block. In the past, I’ve always been uncomfortable with receiving because partners have made a fuss over it or found it gross. I understand this is a dogshit perspective but still struggle with the insecurity of it. I get in my head and can’t enjoy what’s happening. I told my boyfriend about this and learned he is similar. He struggles to enjoy acts that are focused on just him because he thinks too hard about it and the anxiety kills the pleasure.

It’s something both of us want to learn. We have worked our way up to this point so I’d say we’re comfortable with each other, our bodies, and each other’s bodies. We’re passionate and have healthy and honest communication. We just need advice on how to get over the mental barrier.

How can we get over this, or ease our way into enjoying solo attention? Any mindsets or conversations that would be helpful? Any advice or activities you can think of?

Thanks!

edited some grammar mistakes