My first sexual experience was a sexual assault. Later in life I had a partner who I had consenting sex with but during the middle of it I would remove my consent and ask for it to stop only for them to ignore me leaving me to feel violated. Those are my only sexual experiences before being with my very kind and giving bf who has his own sexual trauma which means we have been amazing about communicating and creating a safe sexual atmosphere. The only thing is that ever since my sexual trauma I have dominant sexual urges and have an aversion to anything terribly submissive and degrading. I like to be the one riding, sitting on his face, just any position where I’m in full control. In general our sex life is very vanilla and no one is taking a dominant position and he never does anything to make me feel degraded but I’ve noticed that the idea of being completely in control is what makes me feel safest and therefore the sexiest. I’m not talking hard core dominant thoughts just more like “I’m in control of this situation, I’m in control of my pleasure, my partner is focusing on me and my pleasure, I’m not being used” etc. I’m wondering if this is just a normal thing to do after experiencing sexual trauma as these thoughts definitely didn’t exist before the trauma and if anything I’d say I probably used to lean more submissive before my assaults.
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r/sex My first sexual experience was a sexual assault. Later in life I had a partner who I had consenting sex with but during the middle of it I would remove my consent and ask for it to stop only for them to ignore me leaving me to feel violated. Those are my only sexual experiences before being with my very kind and giving bf who has his own sexual trauma which means we have been amazing about communicating and creating a safe sexual atmosphere. The only thing is that ever since my sexual trauma I have dominant sexual urges and have an aversion to anything terribly submissive and degrading. I like to be the one riding, sitting on his face, just any position where I’m in full control. In general our sex life is very vanilla and no one is taking a dominant position and he never does anything to make me feel degraded but I’ve noticed that the idea of being completely in control is what makes me feel safest and therefore the sexiest. I’m not talking hard core dominant thoughts just more like “I’m in control of this situation, I’m in control of my pleasure, my partner is focusing on me and my pleasure, I’m not being used” etc. I’m wondering if this is just a normal thing to do after experiencing sexual trauma as these thoughts definitely didn’t exist before the trauma and if anything I’d say I probably used to lean more submissive before my assaults. submitted by /u/throwra122900 [link] [comments]
My first sexual experience was a sexual assault. Later in life I had a partner who I had consenting sex with but during the middle of it I would remove my consent and ask for it to stop only for them to ignore me leaving me to feel violated. Those are my only sexual experiences before being with my very kind and giving bf who has his own sexual trauma which means we have been amazing about communicating and creating a safe sexual atmosphere. The only thing is that ever since my sexual trauma I have dominant sexual urges and have an aversion to anything terribly submissive and degrading. I like to be the one riding, sitting on his face, just any position where I’m in full control. In general our sex life is very vanilla and no one is taking a dominant position and he never does anything to make me feel degraded but I’ve noticed that the idea of being completely in control is what makes me feel safest and therefore the sexiest. I’m not talking hard core dominant thoughts just more like “I’m in control of this situation, I’m in control of my pleasure, my partner is focusing on me and my pleasure, I’m not being used” etc. I’m wondering if this is just a normal thing to do after experiencing sexual trauma as these thoughts definitely didn’t exist before the trauma and if anything I’d say I probably used to lean more submissive before my assaults.
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