My husband has absolutely zero libido and it’s dragging me down emotionally /u/ginger_princess2009 Sex

My husband and I have been together for 10 years, and for almost our entire relationship, he’s had almost no libido whatsoever. He did at first, but it’s so bad that we have sex once a month AND that’s only because we’re currently trying for a child. Prior to that, it would be once a year, if that. While I was on birth control, we went TWO YEARS without having sex at all. He never wanted to. And now, if I don’t initiate, it doesn’t happen. I feel like he hates doing it.

When we first started dating, he had a normal libido, but starting at about 6 months in, it started becoming less and less frequent. And, this isn’t new. Apparently his ex cheated on him because of how little they had sex. He told me that she was a very sexual person and she wanted it all the time, and he would do it maybe once a month, and that was more for her than himself.

He literally bought me a vibrator so that I could do it myself so “I wouldn’t bother him” (this was before we were wanting children).

Now that we’re trying, it’s like it’s a chore to him. I will let him know that it’s time, he’ll literally just lay there, and then turn over and fall asleep. Other than the lack of sex, our relationship is good. He’s a good man, but he just has no libido.

Is it possible that he should see a doctor about this?? Along with the absolutely zero interest in sex, he can barely walk because his feet hurt him so bad, and he’s ALWAYS exhausted, and he barely eats anything.

Any advice is appreciated, Thank you

My husband and I have been together for 10 years, and for almost our entire relationship, he’s had almost no libido whatsoever. He did at first, but it’s so bad that we have sex once a month AND that’s only because we’re currently trying for a child. Prior to that, it would be once a year, if that. While I was on birth control, we went TWO YEARS without having sex at all. He never wanted to. And now, if I don’t initiate, it doesn’t happen. I feel like he hates doing it.

When we first started dating, he had a normal libido, but starting at about 6 months in, it started becoming less and less frequent. And, this isn’t new. Apparently his ex cheated on him because of how little they had sex. He told me that she was a very sexual person and she wanted it all the time, and he would do it maybe once a month, and that was more for her than himself.

He literally bought me a vibrator so that I could do it myself so “I wouldn’t bother him” (this was before we were wanting children).

Now that we’re trying, it’s like it’s a chore to him. I will let him know that it’s time, he’ll literally just lay there, and then turn over and fall asleep. Other than the lack of sex, our relationship is good. He’s a good man, but he just has no libido.

Is it possible that he should see a doctor about this?? Along with the absolutely zero interest in sex, he can barely walk because his feet hurt him so bad, and he’s ALWAYS exhausted, and he barely eats anything.

Any advice is appreciated, Thank you