Me and my current boyfriend got together last summer, we met in a student group we were both a part of, and let me preface this by saying we have a great relationship. He is an all around great person, we have a ton of fun together, and he is extremely kind. I’m lucky to have him and this relationship is honestly the healthiest one I’ve ever been in.
The only issue is that he has pretty significant erectile dysfunction. We are very rarely able to actually have sex. I don’t know why this is and neither does he. I know it’s not his fault and I know he’s not trying for it to be this way. We are able to engage in other kinds of intimacy which is always wonderful, and very helpful to me, but I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t want to do PIV sometimes. It’s not required for me to orgasm at all, and I like manual stimulation better, but I enjoy the intimacy and closeness of it a lot, and because of that it’s something I want as a part of my sex life. I know it isn’t his fault, but sometimes I feel really bad that we can’t have that 99% of the time.
Nothing has seemed to work for us. We’ve tried different settings and positions and it just hasn’t worked. I’m feeling like it could be an issue with attraction to me so I’m going to try dressing a little nicer, working on hygiene, and going to the gym. However, there’s only so much I can do and change on my end, and at some point I’m stuck with what I have. It’s nobody’s fault, but I feel depressed and resentful about this a lot if I’m being completely honest. I’m wondering what has worked for other people? What has helped most?
We might try to use thc to see if that helps. I have a much higher libido than my partner but I do struggle to orgasm a little so I think it might help with that too. Has anyone had luck with that?
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r/sex Me and my current boyfriend got together last summer, we met in a student group we were both a part of, and let me preface this by saying we have a great relationship. He is an all around great person, we have a ton of fun together, and he is extremely kind. I’m lucky to have him and this relationship is honestly the healthiest one I’ve ever been in. The only issue is that he has pretty significant erectile dysfunction. We are very rarely able to actually have sex. I don’t know why this is and neither does he. I know it’s not his fault and I know he’s not trying for it to be this way. We are able to engage in other kinds of intimacy which is always wonderful, and very helpful to me, but I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t want to do PIV sometimes. It’s not required for me to orgasm at all, and I like manual stimulation better, but I enjoy the intimacy and closeness of it a lot, and because of that it’s something I want as a part of my sex life. I know it isn’t his fault, but sometimes I feel really bad that we can’t have that 99% of the time. Nothing has seemed to work for us. We’ve tried different settings and positions and it just hasn’t worked. I’m feeling like it could be an issue with attraction to me so I’m going to try dressing a little nicer, working on hygiene, and going to the gym. However, there’s only so much I can do and change on my end, and at some point I’m stuck with what I have. It’s nobody’s fault, but I feel depressed and resentful about this a lot if I’m being completely honest. I’m wondering what has worked for other people? What has helped most? We might try to use thc to see if that helps. I have a much higher libido than my partner but I do struggle to orgasm a little so I think it might help with that too. Has anyone had luck with that? submitted by /u/aloe393947 [link] [comments]
Me and my current boyfriend got together last summer, we met in a student group we were both a part of, and let me preface this by saying we have a great relationship. He is an all around great person, we have a ton of fun together, and he is extremely kind. I’m lucky to have him and this relationship is honestly the healthiest one I’ve ever been in.
The only issue is that he has pretty significant erectile dysfunction. We are very rarely able to actually have sex. I don’t know why this is and neither does he. I know it’s not his fault and I know he’s not trying for it to be this way. We are able to engage in other kinds of intimacy which is always wonderful, and very helpful to me, but I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t want to do PIV sometimes. It’s not required for me to orgasm at all, and I like manual stimulation better, but I enjoy the intimacy and closeness of it a lot, and because of that it’s something I want as a part of my sex life. I know it isn’t his fault, but sometimes I feel really bad that we can’t have that 99% of the time.
Nothing has seemed to work for us. We’ve tried different settings and positions and it just hasn’t worked. I’m feeling like it could be an issue with attraction to me so I’m going to try dressing a little nicer, working on hygiene, and going to the gym. However, there’s only so much I can do and change on my end, and at some point I’m stuck with what I have. It’s nobody’s fault, but I feel depressed and resentful about this a lot if I’m being completely honest. I’m wondering what has worked for other people? What has helped most?
We might try to use thc to see if that helps. I have a much higher libido than my partner but I do struggle to orgasm a little so I think it might help with that too. Has anyone had luck with that?
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