How do I get him to WANT to f**k me? /u/Exotic-Kitty13 Sex

Hi all,

34f here. Dating 33m, been together 3 years. Very happy, have a super chill, easy relationship. At least as far as I’m aware, and he’s never made me think or feel any different. BUT QUESTION – How do I get him to list after me again? To WANT to fuck me? Maybe even to forcefully try to fuck me?

When we do have sex it’s incredibly good. I give him head often and enjoy it. We have a good sex life, relatively regular etc.

I dress up in spicy lingerie for him. I make moves on him, I try not to nag him about stuff/life in general. But he just doesn’t seem to “want” me as much anymore.

Now, we’ve been going through some rough times (I’ve been sick, off work, we’re having to move house and our finances are a little shaky at the moment) but we’re both still super chill with each other.

I’m not a 10/10. I have E cup boobs, a nice enough ass, but I’m a little overweight. He has never expressed this as a problem, but I know he’d prefer me skinnier. I’m working on it for my sake ☺️ He loves big boobs and I’ve even considered looking at natural ways to grow them even bigger! Again, a little bit for me too because I’d LOVE bigger boobs haha

Have I just become boring? Too accessible? Easy? We are with each other all the time at the moment because he’s had to quit his job to essentially “care” for me on my bad days. Could this be putting him off?

I’m just frustrated because I’ve been strutting around this afternoon wearing assless fishnets a tiny thong and a red body bandage, with barely anything else on and he just isn’t interested. He started playing with my nipples in bed but seemed more interested in the YouTube video that was on than me moaning (in a good way lol) to be honest…

How can I change this up? I don’t want to just blue ball him because a, games/manipulation aren’t cool, b, I’d be blue balling myself too lol, and c, I’m scared it wouldn’t make any difference to him and we just fall in to a state of “friendship”.

Talking to him is the obvious answer, but I don’t want to emasculate him, or make him feel like he doesn’t do enough, isn’t enough, because he is incredible.

Does anyone have any recommendations or previous experiences of things that your partner has done that have just driven you crazy horny, or bought you back to really listing/wanting them more often?

Thanks if you made it this far, and have advice ☺️

Hi all,

34f here. Dating 33m, been together 3 years. Very happy, have a super chill, easy relationship. At least as far as I’m aware, and he’s never made me think or feel any different. BUT QUESTION – How do I get him to list after me again? To WANT to fuck me? Maybe even to forcefully try to fuck me?

When we do have sex it’s incredibly good. I give him head often and enjoy it. We have a good sex life, relatively regular etc.

I dress up in spicy lingerie for him. I make moves on him, I try not to nag him about stuff/life in general. But he just doesn’t seem to “want” me as much anymore.

Now, we’ve been going through some rough times (I’ve been sick, off work, we’re having to move house and our finances are a little shaky at the moment) but we’re both still super chill with each other.

I’m not a 10/10. I have E cup boobs, a nice enough ass, but I’m a little overweight. He has never expressed this as a problem, but I know he’d prefer me skinnier. I’m working on it for my sake ☺️ He loves big boobs and I’ve even considered looking at natural ways to grow them even bigger! Again, a little bit for me too because I’d LOVE bigger boobs haha

Have I just become boring? Too accessible? Easy? We are with each other all the time at the moment because he’s had to quit his job to essentially “care” for me on my bad days. Could this be putting him off?

I’m just frustrated because I’ve been strutting around this afternoon wearing assless fishnets a tiny thong and a red body bandage, with barely anything else on and he just isn’t interested. He started playing with my nipples in bed but seemed more interested in the YouTube video that was on than me moaning (in a good way lol) to be honest…

How can I change this up? I don’t want to just blue ball him because a, games/manipulation aren’t cool, b, I’d be blue balling myself too lol, and c, I’m scared it wouldn’t make any difference to him and we just fall in to a state of “friendship”.

Talking to him is the obvious answer, but I don’t want to emasculate him, or make him feel like he doesn’t do enough, isn’t enough, because he is incredible.

Does anyone have any recommendations or previous experiences of things that your partner has done that have just driven you crazy horny, or bought you back to really listing/wanting them more often?

Thanks if you made it this far, and have advice ☺️