She only initiates sex when she wants me to please her? /u/throwaway-dumpedmygf Sex

I don’t know what else to do, or if this is a me problem. Shes a virgin, I’m not. Its been 4 months. She states she’s incredibly attracted to me, but 95% of our sex is focused on her. Figuring out what she likes, experimenting, building intimacy and safety and her gaining confidence in her body.

I can count on my hands how many times she’s touched me. And out of those times, only 3 times has she suggested her doing something to me. The other times its been after i pleasure her, and she doesnt realize that its my turn now, and wants to do some other activity like going on her phone or just chill and cuddle or whatever it is. But im laying there incredibly turned on after pleasuring her, and she just… doesn’t come onto me in the sense of wanting to touch me.

It goes like this: she comes onto me by making out w me, raking her nails along me, and i suck on her boobs, then she lays back and lets me take the lead and i eat her out/finger her etc. it seems like her first instinct or goal when doing this, is to have me touch her but never the other way around. Its embarrassing to have to ask for reciprocation. I just want her to be excited to touch me. If i dont ask, it doesnt happen. Ive tried this.

And whats crazy is, is that she has a lower libido than i do but shes getting all the action.

Any advice please?

I don’t know what else to do, or if this is a me problem. Shes a virgin, I’m not. Its been 4 months. She states she’s incredibly attracted to me, but 95% of our sex is focused on her. Figuring out what she likes, experimenting, building intimacy and safety and her gaining confidence in her body.

I can count on my hands how many times she’s touched me. And out of those times, only 3 times has she suggested her doing something to me. The other times its been after i pleasure her, and she doesnt realize that its my turn now, and wants to do some other activity like going on her phone or just chill and cuddle or whatever it is. But im laying there incredibly turned on after pleasuring her, and she just… doesn’t come onto me in the sense of wanting to touch me.

It goes like this: she comes onto me by making out w me, raking her nails along me, and i suck on her boobs, then she lays back and lets me take the lead and i eat her out/finger her etc. it seems like her first instinct or goal when doing this, is to have me touch her but never the other way around. Its embarrassing to have to ask for reciprocation. I just want her to be excited to touch me. If i dont ask, it doesnt happen. Ive tried this.

And whats crazy is, is that she has a lower libido than i do but shes getting all the action.

Any advice please?