My bf and i don’t really have sex anymore /u/Frequent-Educator363 Sex

I’m 22F and my bf is 24m and we haven’t had sex in a few weeks. we have been together since june 2023 on and off, but have been steady since may of this year. even when we ‘weren’t together’ we would still hang out often and have sex. there were a few periods we haven’t seen each other for a few weeks in between that time and he had slept with two people and i had slept with one.

when we finally got back together we were having a good amount of sex everything was fine. i would say around august issues started to arise with me wanting sex more than he did, i was upset but i adjusted that he didn’t want it as much as i did. a big thing he’s always said is i don’t initiate it well and it doesn’t turn him on. initiating sex with him is hard when i would try to do something and he has absolutely no reaction or interest, so eventually i just stopped and started asking him in a weird way which was because i was uncomfortable and didn’t know how to initiate anymore. he doesn’t necessarily make me feel sexy all the time, while we’re in the moment of course but outside of that not really anything else which wasn’t what i was used to.

its always been an interest for him but eventually he really started to push me to have sex with other people, it’s a kink for him and just talking about it drove him crazy. i wasn’t crazy about the idea but interested and wanted to please him. so i was talking to this guy never (never did actually hang out with him) but just me talking to that guy we started to have more sex because it turned him on. i stopped talking to that guy and i think things just carried on as usual not a frequent but enough to satisfy me. then i actually did find someone else i wanted to have sex with and i started hanging out with him here and there and me and i bf were having more sex than we ever had before.

eventually i think the guy started to catch feelings so we stopped hanging out and once i stopped having sex with someone else me and my boyfriend started having sex less frequently.

now he hasn’t cared to have sex with me for a few weeks now, and i know for a fact he watches porn the nights that were not together without fail (which he always has) it’s hurtful he can watch but not have sex with me.

1. i have talked to him about the fact i don’t want him to watch porn

2. i have communicated it bothers me we don’t have sex.

3. i understand it’s his body and choice

i’m not sure what im expecting to get out of this i just wanted to vent and hear someone else’s opinion this is my first ever post

I’m 22F and my bf is 24m and we haven’t had sex in a few weeks. we have been together since june 2023 on and off, but have been steady since may of this year. even when we ‘weren’t together’ we would still hang out often and have sex. there were a few periods we haven’t seen each other for a few weeks in between that time and he had slept with two people and i had slept with one.

when we finally got back together we were having a good amount of sex everything was fine. i would say around august issues started to arise with me wanting sex more than he did, i was upset but i adjusted that he didn’t want it as much as i did. a big thing he’s always said is i don’t initiate it well and it doesn’t turn him on. initiating sex with him is hard when i would try to do something and he has absolutely no reaction or interest, so eventually i just stopped and started asking him in a weird way which was because i was uncomfortable and didn’t know how to initiate anymore. he doesn’t necessarily make me feel sexy all the time, while we’re in the moment of course but outside of that not really anything else which wasn’t what i was used to.

its always been an interest for him but eventually he really started to push me to have sex with other people, it’s a kink for him and just talking about it drove him crazy. i wasn’t crazy about the idea but interested and wanted to please him. so i was talking to this guy never (never did actually hang out with him) but just me talking to that guy we started to have more sex because it turned him on. i stopped talking to that guy and i think things just carried on as usual not a frequent but enough to satisfy me. then i actually did find someone else i wanted to have sex with and i started hanging out with him here and there and me and i bf were having more sex than we ever had before.

eventually i think the guy started to catch feelings so we stopped hanging out and once i stopped having sex with someone else me and my boyfriend started having sex less frequently.

now he hasn’t cared to have sex with me for a few weeks now, and i know for a fact he watches porn the nights that were not together without fail (which he always has) it’s hurtful he can watch but not have sex with me.

1. i have talked to him about the fact i don’t want him to watch porn

2. i have communicated it bothers me we don’t have sex.

3. i understand it’s his body and choice

i’m not sure what im expecting to get out of this i just wanted to vent and hear someone else’s opinion this is my first ever post