My bf and I are both 22 and have been together for 3 years. We’re each other’s first. Finally, he was open to the idea of pleasuring me and making me cum. I usually can’t cum with penetration and need toys. So we bought them and it has been working. But sometimes he wants to get right into penetration and I told him several times, if I don’t want to feel pain, I need foreplay and be aroused first. So sometimes we’ll use the toys and I’ll finish and then we’ll move to penetration. But other times he wants to do it right away. The most recent time, I was taking longer to finish and he was like “Can we please just fuck” and I was like I need to warm up sorry. And then he continued to help me finish. But it’s getting more and more frustrating because I have told him several times.
Another thing he does that bothers me is that he makes jokes that aren’t really funny, nothing related to what we’re doing or acts silly and that turns me off. Or he’ll ask me to put on the condom for him and throws the condoms on me as a joke. I think I’d prefer more effort on his side turning me on or making it more “romantic”. Like I always get kind of an immature vibe especially in the beginning. I would be more turned on if it was more of a serious or intimate vibe. I already have a difficult time warming up and actually having sex. I’m not sure if this is reasonable or not? Any advice would be appreciated!
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r/sex My bf and I are both 22 and have been together for 3 years. We’re each other’s first. Finally, he was open to the idea of pleasuring me and making me cum. I usually can’t cum with penetration and need toys. So we bought them and it has been working. But sometimes he wants to get right into penetration and I told him several times, if I don’t want to feel pain, I need foreplay and be aroused first. So sometimes we’ll use the toys and I’ll finish and then we’ll move to penetration. But other times he wants to do it right away. The most recent time, I was taking longer to finish and he was like “Can we please just fuck” and I was like I need to warm up sorry. And then he continued to help me finish. But it’s getting more and more frustrating because I have told him several times. Another thing he does that bothers me is that he makes jokes that aren’t really funny, nothing related to what we’re doing or acts silly and that turns me off. Or he’ll ask me to put on the condom for him and throws the condoms on me as a joke. I think I’d prefer more effort on his side turning me on or making it more “romantic”. Like I always get kind of an immature vibe especially in the beginning. I would be more turned on if it was more of a serious or intimate vibe. I already have a difficult time warming up and actually having sex. I’m not sure if this is reasonable or not? Any advice would be appreciated! submitted by /u/throwawaychocolate00 [link] [comments]
My bf and I are both 22 and have been together for 3 years. We’re each other’s first. Finally, he was open to the idea of pleasuring me and making me cum. I usually can’t cum with penetration and need toys. So we bought them and it has been working. But sometimes he wants to get right into penetration and I told him several times, if I don’t want to feel pain, I need foreplay and be aroused first. So sometimes we’ll use the toys and I’ll finish and then we’ll move to penetration. But other times he wants to do it right away. The most recent time, I was taking longer to finish and he was like “Can we please just fuck” and I was like I need to warm up sorry. And then he continued to help me finish. But it’s getting more and more frustrating because I have told him several times.
Another thing he does that bothers me is that he makes jokes that aren’t really funny, nothing related to what we’re doing or acts silly and that turns me off. Or he’ll ask me to put on the condom for him and throws the condoms on me as a joke. I think I’d prefer more effort on his side turning me on or making it more “romantic”. Like I always get kind of an immature vibe especially in the beginning. I would be more turned on if it was more of a serious or intimate vibe. I already have a difficult time warming up and actually having sex. I’m not sure if this is reasonable or not? Any advice would be appreciated!
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