My husband can’t orgasm having sex with me /u/chasingt0m0rr0w Sex

This is a throwaway account. Me (34F) and my husband (35M) have been married for 12 years. We’ve always had a really amazing sex life and are very compatible with each other. We have sex at least twice a week and sometimes more.

I orgasm a lot when we have sex through penetration. He says he loves making me feel good but I’m always left kind of disappointed when he doesn’t ejaculate inside or on me. He said it’s because his heart rate skyrockets during sex and it does (north of 185 bpm) and it requires a lot of physical effort for sex. We can have sex for 30 minutes and he still won’t cum to the point that he’s just sweaty and exhausted. Me on the other hand would have cum 5 times at least and is exhausted.

Whenever he masturbates he can cum but it also takes him about an hour. He doesn’t masturbate that often and we’ve tried him not masturbating and just having sex with me but still no help. We’ve talked about this issue and he’s always reassured me that out sex life is awesome and that it’s not something I’m doing. He said it just takes him a while to cum and while sex is great he cannot keep doing it for more than 30min in that high of a heart rate. I have no problem with him masturbating. I told him if he masturbates while I’m sleeping he’s free to just cum in my mouth and even after giving him verbal consent that is valid for the rest of our lives he’s only done this maybe once. He says he doesn’t want to wake me up even though I said I’ll be fine if he did.

I don’t know if maybe I equate a guy cumming inside a girl a sign of complete fulfillment and him not cumming inside me a sign that I’m not doing enough. Again he’s reassured me it’s not something I’m doing. I do have low self confidence so I tend to think like that. 🙁 I don’t know what else we can do.

This is a throwaway account. Me (34F) and my husband (35M) have been married for 12 years. We’ve always had a really amazing sex life and are very compatible with each other. We have sex at least twice a week and sometimes more.

I orgasm a lot when we have sex through penetration. He says he loves making me feel good but I’m always left kind of disappointed when he doesn’t ejaculate inside or on me. He said it’s because his heart rate skyrockets during sex and it does (north of 185 bpm) and it requires a lot of physical effort for sex. We can have sex for 30 minutes and he still won’t cum to the point that he’s just sweaty and exhausted. Me on the other hand would have cum 5 times at least and is exhausted.

Whenever he masturbates he can cum but it also takes him about an hour. He doesn’t masturbate that often and we’ve tried him not masturbating and just having sex with me but still no help. We’ve talked about this issue and he’s always reassured me that out sex life is awesome and that it’s not something I’m doing. He said it just takes him a while to cum and while sex is great he cannot keep doing it for more than 30min in that high of a heart rate. I have no problem with him masturbating. I told him if he masturbates while I’m sleeping he’s free to just cum in my mouth and even after giving him verbal consent that is valid for the rest of our lives he’s only done this maybe once. He says he doesn’t want to wake me up even though I said I’ll be fine if he did.

I don’t know if maybe I equate a guy cumming inside a girl a sign of complete fulfillment and him not cumming inside me a sign that I’m not doing enough. Again he’s reassured me it’s not something I’m doing. I do have low self confidence so I tend to think like that. 🙁 I don’t know what else we can do.