Hi all!
Looking for advice on why I physically prevent myself from orgasming. This has ALWAYS been an issue for me, since I first discovered masturbation – trying to orgasm via my clit using my fingers or a partners, just does not work! See, I do feel pleasure from stimulating my clit – however, just before the grand finale my legs begin to shut; I pull away and I stop myself. Yet, when seeking an orgasm from penetrative sex, my body lets itself orgasm.
To put it into perspective, if my partner (M 25) gives me oral sex – I’m fine, I orgasm and it’s absolutely amazing. Like I said above, with penetrative sex, my body just lets it happen and it’s brilliant!
But when my partner attempts to remotely go anywhere near my clit with his fingers, after a while and near orgasm my body begins to freak out – my hands cover my clit, trying to push him away, my body contorts and rotates to try and prevent it – hell, I even try and physically push him off.
The thing is – I have no control over this. It’s like my body isn’t mine when this happens, it’s like it’s an ingrained instinct. Because trust me, I want my boyfriend to be able to make me orgasm with his fingers – it’s not like I don’t, because I completely trust this man with my life.
My partner is concerned about it – mainly because there is no reason to why I am this way, there is no trauma that I can remember!
Help! Any advice on this!
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r/sex Hi all! Looking for advice on why I physically prevent myself from orgasming. This has ALWAYS been an issue for me, since I first discovered masturbation – trying to orgasm via my clit using my fingers or a partners, just does not work! See, I do feel pleasure from stimulating my clit – however, just before the grand finale my legs begin to shut; I pull away and I stop myself. Yet, when seeking an orgasm from penetrative sex, my body lets itself orgasm. To put it into perspective, if my partner (M 25) gives me oral sex – I’m fine, I orgasm and it’s absolutely amazing. Like I said above, with penetrative sex, my body just lets it happen and it’s brilliant! But when my partner attempts to remotely go anywhere near my clit with his fingers, after a while and near orgasm my body begins to freak out – my hands cover my clit, trying to push him away, my body contorts and rotates to try and prevent it – hell, I even try and physically push him off. The thing is – I have no control over this. It’s like my body isn’t mine when this happens, it’s like it’s an ingrained instinct. Because trust me, I want my boyfriend to be able to make me orgasm with his fingers – it’s not like I don’t, because I completely trust this man with my life. My partner is concerned about it – mainly because there is no reason to why I am this way, there is no trauma that I can remember! Help! Any advice on this! submitted by /u/Quar1nt1n3 [link] [comments]
Hi all!
Looking for advice on why I physically prevent myself from orgasming. This has ALWAYS been an issue for me, since I first discovered masturbation – trying to orgasm via my clit using my fingers or a partners, just does not work! See, I do feel pleasure from stimulating my clit – however, just before the grand finale my legs begin to shut; I pull away and I stop myself. Yet, when seeking an orgasm from penetrative sex, my body lets itself orgasm.
To put it into perspective, if my partner (M 25) gives me oral sex – I’m fine, I orgasm and it’s absolutely amazing. Like I said above, with penetrative sex, my body just lets it happen and it’s brilliant!
But when my partner attempts to remotely go anywhere near my clit with his fingers, after a while and near orgasm my body begins to freak out – my hands cover my clit, trying to push him away, my body contorts and rotates to try and prevent it – hell, I even try and physically push him off.
The thing is – I have no control over this. It’s like my body isn’t mine when this happens, it’s like it’s an ingrained instinct. Because trust me, I want my boyfriend to be able to make me orgasm with his fingers – it’s not like I don’t, because I completely trust this man with my life.
My partner is concerned about it – mainly because there is no reason to why I am this way, there is no trauma that I can remember!
Help! Any advice on this!
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