Not sure if I want a threesome /u/AndreaG881 Sex

Here’s the background

I have 2 friends, M 51 and F57. We are all single (both divorced and I have never been married). We have all been friends for a while. A few years back, M 51 and I had dated for a bit and he has also been out with F 57 in the past as well. I thought I was over him. Apparently not.

The other night, F57 friend was telling us about this hot dream that she had where the three of us had a threesome. They were definitely on board, and I was like ” that sounds like fun!” but I didn’t know they actually want to act on it. We started talking and before I knew it, a date had been set.

I’ve gone from all in, to maybe, to I have to call this off, to eh, can’t be that bad right? Right?!

Here are my reservations

1. I’m apprehensive about the aftermath. Things are going to be so different between all of us (F 57 and I are both bi, M51 is straight). I feel like it will really alter the friendships.

2. As I said above, apparently I still have feelings for him. I don’t know if I want to watch him with another woman. There’s been some flirtation between him and I over the last year or so. So I know it’s going to be difficult to see them interact.

3. If they want to sleep together they should just sleep together. Why do I have to be involved? It was a dumb sex dream, doesnt mean we have to recreate it.

4. I’ve never had a threesome before. Both of them have but never with the other involved. I don’t even know how to act in a threesome. My lack of experience definitely has me anxious. I’m not sexually inexperienced, just threesome inexperienced.

Am I overthinking this? Should I just have fun with it? Or am I right to feel reservations about all of it?

TL;DR My two friends want to have a threesome and I am unsure for a multitude of reasons

Here’s the background

I have 2 friends, M 51 and F57. We are all single (both divorced and I have never been married). We have all been friends for a while. A few years back, M 51 and I had dated for a bit and he has also been out with F 57 in the past as well. I thought I was over him. Apparently not.

The other night, F57 friend was telling us about this hot dream that she had where the three of us had a threesome. They were definitely on board, and I was like ” that sounds like fun!” but I didn’t know they actually want to act on it. We started talking and before I knew it, a date had been set.

I’ve gone from all in, to maybe, to I have to call this off, to eh, can’t be that bad right? Right?!

Here are my reservations

1. I’m apprehensive about the aftermath. Things are going to be so different between all of us (F 57 and I are both bi, M51 is straight). I feel like it will really alter the friendships.

2. As I said above, apparently I still have feelings for him. I don’t know if I want to watch him with another woman. There’s been some flirtation between him and I over the last year or so. So I know it’s going to be difficult to see them interact.

3. If they want to sleep together they should just sleep together. Why do I have to be involved? It was a dumb sex dream, doesnt mean we have to recreate it.

4. I’ve never had a threesome before. Both of them have but never with the other involved. I don’t even know how to act in a threesome. My lack of experience definitely has me anxious. I’m not sexually inexperienced, just threesome inexperienced.

Am I overthinking this? Should I just have fun with it? Or am I right to feel reservations about all of it?

TL;DR My two friends want to have a threesome and I am unsure for a multitude of reasons