So, basically yeah…After about 9 years in prison, my boyfriend got released. He’s been out for about 2 years. Our relationship has been a struggle and rocky since then, but now, FINALLY we’re on a stable path. We love and care about each other deeply, and I don’t want to be with anyone else. Everything is perfect, except our sex life. It’s practically non-existent. We kiss a lot, cuddle, spend almost all day together when we’re not working, etc. But we rarely have sex. I’ve openly communicated this concern to him a lot, and we’ve talked about it. He says that the years in prison fucked him up and he’s not used to physical intimacy. He says human contact makes him anxious. He says he’s also anxious because he went years without sexual contact with anyone and that he doesn’t know what to do when we have sex (he stated it’s embarrassing that he’s 28 and doesn’t know what to do). I reassure him I do not care and that he has nothing to be embarrassed about and that I just want to enjoy the moment with him. I do believe his reasons because it even took him a while to initiate cuddling and hugging me after his release. It just sucks… because I want us to be more sexually intimate. I want to feel desired, and to make him feel good too. The lack of sex makes me feel so unattractive and like he isn’t attracted to me. It makes me feel like what’s wrong with me? Other couples our age seem like they just can’t get enough of each other. I feel like I’ve tried everything…Communicating with him about this issue straightforwardly, putting a lot of effort into my appearance, doing things for him like making him his favorite foods, etc. Nothing works. Does anyone have any advice? I’m at a loss because this issue really sucks, but I don’t want to leave him.
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r/sex So, basically yeah…After about 9 years in prison, my boyfriend got released. He’s been out for about 2 years. Our relationship has been a struggle and rocky since then, but now, FINALLY we’re on a stable path. We love and care about each other deeply, and I don’t want to be with anyone else. Everything is perfect, except our sex life. It’s practically non-existent. We kiss a lot, cuddle, spend almost all day together when we’re not working, etc. But we rarely have sex. I’ve openly communicated this concern to him a lot, and we’ve talked about it. He says that the years in prison fucked him up and he’s not used to physical intimacy. He says human contact makes him anxious. He says he’s also anxious because he went years without sexual contact with anyone and that he doesn’t know what to do when we have sex (he stated it’s embarrassing that he’s 28 and doesn’t know what to do). I reassure him I do not care and that he has nothing to be embarrassed about and that I just want to enjoy the moment with him. I do believe his reasons because it even took him a while to initiate cuddling and hugging me after his release. It just sucks… because I want us to be more sexually intimate. I want to feel desired, and to make him feel good too. The lack of sex makes me feel so unattractive and like he isn’t attracted to me. It makes me feel like what’s wrong with me? Other couples our age seem like they just can’t get enough of each other. I feel like I’ve tried everything…Communicating with him about this issue straightforwardly, putting a lot of effort into my appearance, doing things for him like making him his favorite foods, etc. Nothing works. Does anyone have any advice? I’m at a loss because this issue really sucks, but I don’t want to leave him. submitted by /u/babybug98 [link] [comments]
So, basically yeah…After about 9 years in prison, my boyfriend got released. He’s been out for about 2 years. Our relationship has been a struggle and rocky since then, but now, FINALLY we’re on a stable path. We love and care about each other deeply, and I don’t want to be with anyone else. Everything is perfect, except our sex life. It’s practically non-existent. We kiss a lot, cuddle, spend almost all day together when we’re not working, etc. But we rarely have sex. I’ve openly communicated this concern to him a lot, and we’ve talked about it. He says that the years in prison fucked him up and he’s not used to physical intimacy. He says human contact makes him anxious. He says he’s also anxious because he went years without sexual contact with anyone and that he doesn’t know what to do when we have sex (he stated it’s embarrassing that he’s 28 and doesn’t know what to do). I reassure him I do not care and that he has nothing to be embarrassed about and that I just want to enjoy the moment with him. I do believe his reasons because it even took him a while to initiate cuddling and hugging me after his release. It just sucks… because I want us to be more sexually intimate. I want to feel desired, and to make him feel good too. The lack of sex makes me feel so unattractive and like he isn’t attracted to me. It makes me feel like what’s wrong with me? Other couples our age seem like they just can’t get enough of each other. I feel like I’ve tried everything…Communicating with him about this issue straightforwardly, putting a lot of effort into my appearance, doing things for him like making him his favorite foods, etc. Nothing works. Does anyone have any advice? I’m at a loss because this issue really sucks, but I don’t want to leave him.
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