I don’t even know what to say /u/No_Reference_3164 Sex

My ex and I recently had a conversation after some time being apart. We dated for 2.5 years.

Him and I never had sex, this was because he was a switch (50/50), which was something that put me off a little bit so we decided the healthiest thing to do is to not have sex throughout our relationship and compromise on making things work (we were virgins). I never thought much of it, there would be times when he would mention it or suggest we at least try but he didn’t want to be pushy either so I told him I’d let him know if I ever feel like making love or being sexually intimate etc Well that never happened.

We were talking on the phone and I asked him why he resented me so much (he was a bit hateful towards the end of the relationship) and he said : “The pain you have caused me wont go away anytime soon, you never wanted me or felt attracted to me, I told you making love is beyond kinks, it’s an act that comes from love and desire, but you never felt that with me despite wanting you ever since we started dating.”

I told him that I understand he is hurt by that but that once he meets someone new and starts a healthy sexlife he will feel better about it and he said ” sleeping with another woman won’t take away the pain of never knowing you in bed ” and he started crying.

I didn’t know what to say.. I want to message him and make him feel better because I wasn’t aware of these feelings.. He suppressed them throughout our relationship.

My ex and I recently had a conversation after some time being apart. We dated for 2.5 years.

Him and I never had sex, this was because he was a switch (50/50), which was something that put me off a little bit so we decided the healthiest thing to do is to not have sex throughout our relationship and compromise on making things work (we were virgins). I never thought much of it, there would be times when he would mention it or suggest we at least try but he didn’t want to be pushy either so I told him I’d let him know if I ever feel like making love or being sexually intimate etc Well that never happened.

We were talking on the phone and I asked him why he resented me so much (he was a bit hateful towards the end of the relationship) and he said : “The pain you have caused me wont go away anytime soon, you never wanted me or felt attracted to me, I told you making love is beyond kinks, it’s an act that comes from love and desire, but you never felt that with me despite wanting you ever since we started dating.”

I told him that I understand he is hurt by that but that once he meets someone new and starts a healthy sexlife he will feel better about it and he said ” sleeping with another woman won’t take away the pain of never knowing you in bed ” and he started crying.

I didn’t know what to say.. I want to message him and make him feel better because I wasn’t aware of these feelings.. He suppressed them throughout our relationship.