Needing more than VANILLA /u/Mission-River-9040 Sex

I (49m) had the worst sexual experience with my wife(44f) last night. I initiated and she seemed into it. I have been trying to spice up our sex life, asking her to get lingerie, asking her to talk dirty, talking about fantasies(to which she always says she has none) just something to get the spark or emotion back into our sex life. Nothing seems to work. Last night I was trying to get us in different/new positions and it she was just giving off this uninterested feeling. I got so turned off by it, I just stopped. My head went from being excited to try something new/different to why the fuck do i even bother. We have been together for 12 years and lately the sex has felt like routine, unconnected. We have sex whenever either of us initiates, she makes me feel like it’s a bother to try something new or different. I just don’t know how to get her engaged in spicing things up…Just don’t know what to do anymore!

I (49m) had the worst sexual experience with my wife(44f) last night. I initiated and she seemed into it. I have been trying to spice up our sex life, asking her to get lingerie, asking her to talk dirty, talking about fantasies(to which she always says she has none) just something to get the spark or emotion back into our sex life. Nothing seems to work. Last night I was trying to get us in different/new positions and it she was just giving off this uninterested feeling. I got so turned off by it, I just stopped. My head went from being excited to try something new/different to why the fuck do i even bother. We have been together for 12 years and lately the sex has felt like routine, unconnected. We have sex whenever either of us initiates, she makes me feel like it’s a bother to try something new or different. I just don’t know how to get her engaged in spicing things up…Just don’t know what to do anymore!