Awkward sex on 3rd date, Not sure how to handle it better the next time /u/Kind_Art2936 Sex

So basically i just had sex with a girl on our 3rd date. But i am really confused on how everything played out.

Basically, we met up and got coffee on our first date and walked around, the vibe was great, she asked to hang out again the next day and we ended up going to an arcade and headed back to her place after and made out a bit while watching a movie.

Today was our third date, less than a week before our first date. I proposed we could grab food and head back to my place, everything was going smoothly, we ended up going up to my room and started making out while watching a movie.

One thing lead to another and we ended up touching each other which led up to the point of sex. At this point i started getting really nervous, i havent had sex since i broke up with my ex which was nearly half a year ago and i havent been with a different girl in years.

I started sweating and when i went to grab the condom and put it on i went soft. It had nothing to do with her i just think the combination of everything made it happen.

At this point i didnt think it was an issue and asked if we could switch position to help me get hard again but she started shutting down and said “its fine” and started getting dressed again.

She basically felt like “oh i couldnt keep you hard” as if it was something she did. I ended up reassuring her for 20 minutes and just expressing my nervousness which helped her calm down again.

We ended up making out again after some clear communication and she ended up initiating the sex this time. So i felt less anxious knowing she was in the mood and into me despite what happened.

It wasnt very long, normally it takes me about 10-15 mins to cum. But she ended up getting really wet and i could tell she was into it early on. She started touching herself, and when we switched positions, she came in like 2 minutes and turned over and said she was done.

I myself, never even finished though, i dont think its the end of the world but i am confused why she never proposed to help me finish as well? Did she just assume i finished too? I have never experienced this as a guy lol

I was happy that she enjoyed it because at this point i was just trying not to make her feel insecure and to make sure she enjoyed it.

But now after she left i am questioning if maybe she just wanted to get it over with and go home, but then why was she the one who initiated it the second time and she clearly seemed really into it in the moment.

I feel really bummed out because i did send her a message that i enjoyed our time together to reassure her that i do like her despite her being unsure about it when i was struggling to get hard.

She just replied with a “😊” emoji. I know its late and ill just have to see how things play out but im just very confused because ive never had a sexual encounter this awkward before and i have no idea how she REALLY feels.

Has anyone her ever been in a similar situation? Maybe someone has been in a similar position as the girl and can give me some ideas on how best to handle this? I do like her but im afraid that her communication is really poor and it leaves me with so many questions.

So basically i just had sex with a girl on our 3rd date. But i am really confused on how everything played out.

Basically, we met up and got coffee on our first date and walked around, the vibe was great, she asked to hang out again the next day and we ended up going to an arcade and headed back to her place after and made out a bit while watching a movie.

Today was our third date, less than a week before our first date. I proposed we could grab food and head back to my place, everything was going smoothly, we ended up going up to my room and started making out while watching a movie.

One thing lead to another and we ended up touching each other which led up to the point of sex. At this point i started getting really nervous, i havent had sex since i broke up with my ex which was nearly half a year ago and i havent been with a different girl in years.

I started sweating and when i went to grab the condom and put it on i went soft. It had nothing to do with her i just think the combination of everything made it happen.

At this point i didnt think it was an issue and asked if we could switch position to help me get hard again but she started shutting down and said “its fine” and started getting dressed again.

She basically felt like “oh i couldnt keep you hard” as if it was something she did. I ended up reassuring her for 20 minutes and just expressing my nervousness which helped her calm down again.

We ended up making out again after some clear communication and she ended up initiating the sex this time. So i felt less anxious knowing she was in the mood and into me despite what happened.

It wasnt very long, normally it takes me about 10-15 mins to cum. But she ended up getting really wet and i could tell she was into it early on. She started touching herself, and when we switched positions, she came in like 2 minutes and turned over and said she was done.

I myself, never even finished though, i dont think its the end of the world but i am confused why she never proposed to help me finish as well? Did she just assume i finished too? I have never experienced this as a guy lol

I was happy that she enjoyed it because at this point i was just trying not to make her feel insecure and to make sure she enjoyed it.

But now after she left i am questioning if maybe she just wanted to get it over with and go home, but then why was she the one who initiated it the second time and she clearly seemed really into it in the moment.

I feel really bummed out because i did send her a message that i enjoyed our time together to reassure her that i do like her despite her being unsure about it when i was struggling to get hard.

She just replied with a “😊” emoji. I know its late and ill just have to see how things play out but im just very confused because ive never had a sexual encounter this awkward before and i have no idea how she REALLY feels.

Has anyone her ever been in a similar situation? Maybe someone has been in a similar position as the girl and can give me some ideas on how best to handle this? I do like her but im afraid that her communication is really poor and it leaves me with so many questions.