dont know how to tell my gf im not sexually satisfied /u/juelus Sex

so me and my gf have been going out for a year now, and we’ve done oral sex, fingering, dirty talking, it’s like we know everything we like in sex about each other. and for the most part, I think we do, but everytime the having-sex moment comes up, she just gets turned off and asks me to stop.

she’s had a rough life with her dad, because she was born when her dad was 18 yo and her mom was 16 yo, and her dad kinda blames her for it even tho it’s absolutely not her fault, so I can guess where the issue comes from. also, we tried to have actual vaginal sex once, but we were laying on a bunk bed so it was kinda difficult for us to get in a sex position we were familiar with (keep in mind we are both virgins)

apart from this, she doesn’t want me to watch porn because it makes her feel bad and I can understand that, but when we hang out at my place, most of the time we don’t do anything sex wise. i’ve got to say, saying it out loud makes me feel insensitive and selfish, but i cant find ways to satisfy myslef sexually, and I started watching porn to masturbate. also, the not-having-sex issue is bothering me since some weeks ago and my head is really messed up from some other stuff that is making me really frustrated.

any recommendations?

edit: one of these days in which she refused yo have sex, I acompanied her in her way home and after she got there, she just started sexting with me, like really horny kinda sexting. also, she couldn’t stop saying how much she regretes refusing, and this has me really confused too.

so me and my gf have been going out for a year now, and we’ve done oral sex, fingering, dirty talking, it’s like we know everything we like in sex about each other. and for the most part, I think we do, but everytime the having-sex moment comes up, she just gets turned off and asks me to stop.

she’s had a rough life with her dad, because she was born when her dad was 18 yo and her mom was 16 yo, and her dad kinda blames her for it even tho it’s absolutely not her fault, so I can guess where the issue comes from. also, we tried to have actual vaginal sex once, but we were laying on a bunk bed so it was kinda difficult for us to get in a sex position we were familiar with (keep in mind we are both virgins)

apart from this, she doesn’t want me to watch porn because it makes her feel bad and I can understand that, but when we hang out at my place, most of the time we don’t do anything sex wise. i’ve got to say, saying it out loud makes me feel insensitive and selfish, but i cant find ways to satisfy myslef sexually, and I started watching porn to masturbate. also, the not-having-sex issue is bothering me since some weeks ago and my head is really messed up from some other stuff that is making me really frustrated.

any recommendations?

edit: one of these days in which she refused yo have sex, I acompanied her in her way home and after she got there, she just started sexting with me, like really horny kinda sexting. also, she couldn’t stop saying how much she regretes refusing, and this has me really confused too.