I feel bad because of my anxiety /u/Correct-Dimension-78 Sex

15F. I posted a similar before but this is more a better way to say if and updated

This is talk of virtual for now but I’m quite anxiety riddled and overthinking gets in the way. Most of the day for me is spent overthinking so I don’t have sex on my mind as much as I would without that overthinking. Or i just go numb and dissociate. When we talk im always smiling and happy but when sex is mentioned for some reason my anxiety attacks that. I qlove my partner lots and he’s really understanding but I’m scared we aren’t compatible somehow because I’ve had this anxiety recently. (My overthinking says rhat. As i saw posts about it and stuff and my brain twisted it saying its the situation im in) We still do it’s just less often because I’m always filled with anxiety. It’s not sex itself. It’s My current life that’s preventing this.

I don’t know if it would be easier irl but probably more nervous as idk what im doing.. I can tell he’s supportive and I feel really happy talking to him. I can think about that with less worry but that’s usually at night when we aren’t talking and his time difference is 7 hours before me. As he isn’t in the uk currently.

I consider myself hypersexual but recently it’s been a mix of “what if I’m not really in the mood and I’m lying” and “u just had this horrible instrusive thoughts. If u continue that means u liked it.” Sort of thing kinda.

Or just general overthinking. Sex itself isn’t a problem really. It’s the anxiety and overthinking that plagues it as well as everything else in my life. Maybe since it’s virtual I have way more time to just sit around and think. And my brain twists words saying bad things about him

I know I should probably get professional guidance for my anxiety but I’m just . I’m worried he will.blame himself for it. It’s really not him. It’s a problem I have as I care about him ALOT. My anxiousness tends to attack him most.

He’s a great partner and I love him alot. Probably The only understanding one I’ve had. But I’m worried. I want to be open with him. But I can’t when everytime I try my brain says im forcing it or makes me overthink. Or I was in the first place and I just feel bad to turn him down. He doesn’t get upset its just my brain wired to want to please and scared to think

I need some advice. Sometimes but rarely I can do that without any issue. But alot of the time my brain ruins it for me.

And I think it’s more worrying to him that I keep apologising and over explaining because my anxiousness tells me to 🥹🥹

15F. I posted a similar before but this is more a better way to say if and updated

This is talk of virtual for now but I’m quite anxiety riddled and overthinking gets in the way. Most of the day for me is spent overthinking so I don’t have sex on my mind as much as I would without that overthinking. Or i just go numb and dissociate. When we talk im always smiling and happy but when sex is mentioned for some reason my anxiety attacks that. I qlove my partner lots and he’s really understanding but I’m scared we aren’t compatible somehow because I’ve had this anxiety recently. (My overthinking says rhat. As i saw posts about it and stuff and my brain twisted it saying its the situation im in) We still do it’s just less often because I’m always filled with anxiety. It’s not sex itself. It’s My current life that’s preventing this.

I don’t know if it would be easier irl but probably more nervous as idk what im doing.. I can tell he’s supportive and I feel really happy talking to him. I can think about that with less worry but that’s usually at night when we aren’t talking and his time difference is 7 hours before me. As he isn’t in the uk currently.

I consider myself hypersexual but recently it’s been a mix of “what if I’m not really in the mood and I’m lying” and “u just had this horrible instrusive thoughts. If u continue that means u liked it.” Sort of thing kinda.

Or just general overthinking. Sex itself isn’t a problem really. It’s the anxiety and overthinking that plagues it as well as everything else in my life. Maybe since it’s virtual I have way more time to just sit around and think. And my brain twists words saying bad things about him

I know I should probably get professional guidance for my anxiety but I’m just . I’m worried he will.blame himself for it. It’s really not him. It’s a problem I have as I care about him ALOT. My anxiousness tends to attack him most.

He’s a great partner and I love him alot. Probably The only understanding one I’ve had. But I’m worried. I want to be open with him. But I can’t when everytime I try my brain says im forcing it or makes me overthink. Or I was in the first place and I just feel bad to turn him down. He doesn’t get upset its just my brain wired to want to please and scared to think

I need some advice. Sometimes but rarely I can do that without any issue. But alot of the time my brain ruins it for me.

And I think it’s more worrying to him that I keep apologising and over explaining because my anxiousness tells me to 🥹🥹