i’m (27F) fairly experienced in bed but i’m also super communicative and understanding which is why i’m confused.. hooked up with a guy (31M) for the first time tonight and he finished really quickly the first time. as in, he finished pretty much when he put it in.
i wasn’t upset and tried to reassure him endlessly that he shouldn’t be embarrassed because i understand! i made it very clear it’s not a big deal and he seemed to get it. however, we tried again after about an hour or so, and he stopped after a few thrusts..
he said it was because the “condom felt weird” as in it was giving him issues? i just don’t understand though because i’ve never heard or read about that sort of issue happening. i made it clear i still found him very attractive and interesting (& had different condoms) but he wanted to end it there..
just was wondering if other men encountered this issue? i’m really empathic so im trying to get into his headspace and made it clear that i love communication and would rather he be honest (even if it meant he hurt my feelings) than keeping whatever it is to himself..
just looking for insight.. he seemed really, really cool and i want him to feel comfortable regardless of what happens in the future…
thanks in advance.
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r/sex i’m (27F) fairly experienced in bed but i’m also super communicative and understanding which is why i’m confused.. hooked up with a guy (31M) for the first time tonight and he finished really quickly the first time. as in, he finished pretty much when he put it in. i wasn’t upset and tried to reassure him endlessly that he shouldn’t be embarrassed because i understand! i made it very clear it’s not a big deal and he seemed to get it. however, we tried again after about an hour or so, and he stopped after a few thrusts.. he said it was because the “condom felt weird” as in it was giving him issues? i just don’t understand though because i’ve never heard or read about that sort of issue happening. i made it clear i still found him very attractive and interesting (& had different condoms) but he wanted to end it there.. just was wondering if other men encountered this issue? i’m really empathic so im trying to get into his headspace and made it clear that i love communication and would rather he be honest (even if it meant he hurt my feelings) than keeping whatever it is to himself.. just looking for insight.. he seemed really, really cool and i want him to feel comfortable regardless of what happens in the future… thanks in advance. submitted by /u/greenstopsign420 [link] [comments]
i’m (27F) fairly experienced in bed but i’m also super communicative and understanding which is why i’m confused.. hooked up with a guy (31M) for the first time tonight and he finished really quickly the first time. as in, he finished pretty much when he put it in.
i wasn’t upset and tried to reassure him endlessly that he shouldn’t be embarrassed because i understand! i made it very clear it’s not a big deal and he seemed to get it. however, we tried again after about an hour or so, and he stopped after a few thrusts..
he said it was because the “condom felt weird” as in it was giving him issues? i just don’t understand though because i’ve never heard or read about that sort of issue happening. i made it clear i still found him very attractive and interesting (& had different condoms) but he wanted to end it there..
just was wondering if other men encountered this issue? i’m really empathic so im trying to get into his headspace and made it clear that i love communication and would rather he be honest (even if it meant he hurt my feelings) than keeping whatever it is to himself..
just looking for insight.. he seemed really, really cool and i want him to feel comfortable regardless of what happens in the future…
thanks in advance.
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