Why is lack of adequacy concerns ignored so much? /u/Pressurevalv Sex

I’ve seen people expressing concerns of being adequate enough with a new partner (usually guys dating gals) and usually being given the excuse “But they are with you now. ”

That’s the thing, that concern and self consciousness is valid. Fear they are a mediocre/poor lover, aren’t “big enough” (boobs or penis) or the experience gap makes them inferior. It effects a person constantly questioning if they really are pleasing. If they aren’t a “settled for” partner after the other got through their wild time.

I guess it’s part frustrating rant that so many I know don’t get it cause they’ve not had to really deal with the issues that cause these feelings. Also I guess a question of how one “overcomes” such things?

I’ve seen people expressing concerns of being adequate enough with a new partner (usually guys dating gals) and usually being given the excuse “But they are with you now. ”

That’s the thing, that concern and self consciousness is valid. Fear they are a mediocre/poor lover, aren’t “big enough” (boobs or penis) or the experience gap makes them inferior. It effects a person constantly questioning if they really are pleasing. If they aren’t a “settled for” partner after the other got through their wild time.

I guess it’s part frustrating rant that so many I know don’t get it cause they’ve not had to really deal with the issues that cause these feelings. Also I guess a question of how one “overcomes” such things?