I identified as bisexual but now I think I’m lesbian? Feeling confused about if I’m gay or bi now. /u/hopelessjestor Sex

My only sexual partner has been with a guy I dated 17-22. I’m 22F. I have identified as bisexual in the past but I had a strong preference for men yet still liked women.

My ex and I broke up because I think that I’m lesbian. I was very open about my feelings and attraction to my ex. He was not blindsided in the slightest. Our breakup was mutual and friendly.

When I was 20, my attraction to women grew very fast and it was strong. In fact, it was really strong enough to make me almost feel completely gay. The only thing that was stopping me from identifying as such was I was still with my male partner at the time.

My ex and I would have sex and while it felt good, I was still unsatisfied by the end of it because I was craving women. After a while, I lost complete interest in other men. My ex was really the only man I was attracted to and interested in but eventually, I felt like sex with him wasn’t like it was before my preference shifted. It was good and felt great but it also felt hallow like I was unfulfilled and something was missing.

So, now I’m single and I’m confused about my attraction to men. I don’t think about men sexually at all (and I never did unless it was my ex when we were together). I don’t find men sexually appealing anymore. I don’t know if I would even date one now or sleep with one ever again.

I feel like the only situation that I would be able to date a man in was if I was allowed to date and sleep with women on the side but then again, that just feels like I’m explaining a friendship between me and a man now. Not even a relationship.

Yet with women, I get incredibly turned on when I think about them sexually. It could be any woman too. Whenever I think about romance and sex, I think about a woman now, which makes me feel giddy and horny lol. I would date a woman and I would have sex with one.

I haven’t been with a woman yet because I’m incredibly shy about my inexperience with women. I really want to change that soon though hopefully.

Is this common? Would I fit into the bisexual label or the lesbian one? Please don’t say that labels don’t matter because I’m genuinely seeing what I would fit in under.

This is a throwaway because I don’t come to the sex Reddit often.

My only sexual partner has been with a guy I dated 17-22. I’m 22F. I have identified as bisexual in the past but I had a strong preference for men yet still liked women.

My ex and I broke up because I think that I’m lesbian. I was very open about my feelings and attraction to my ex. He was not blindsided in the slightest. Our breakup was mutual and friendly.

When I was 20, my attraction to women grew very fast and it was strong. In fact, it was really strong enough to make me almost feel completely gay. The only thing that was stopping me from identifying as such was I was still with my male partner at the time.

My ex and I would have sex and while it felt good, I was still unsatisfied by the end of it because I was craving women. After a while, I lost complete interest in other men. My ex was really the only man I was attracted to and interested in but eventually, I felt like sex with him wasn’t like it was before my preference shifted. It was good and felt great but it also felt hallow like I was unfulfilled and something was missing.

So, now I’m single and I’m confused about my attraction to men. I don’t think about men sexually at all (and I never did unless it was my ex when we were together). I don’t find men sexually appealing anymore. I don’t know if I would even date one now or sleep with one ever again.

I feel like the only situation that I would be able to date a man in was if I was allowed to date and sleep with women on the side but then again, that just feels like I’m explaining a friendship between me and a man now. Not even a relationship.

Yet with women, I get incredibly turned on when I think about them sexually. It could be any woman too. Whenever I think about romance and sex, I think about a woman now, which makes me feel giddy and horny lol. I would date a woman and I would have sex with one.

I haven’t been with a woman yet because I’m incredibly shy about my inexperience with women. I really want to change that soon though hopefully.

Is this common? Would I fit into the bisexual label or the lesbian one? Please don’t say that labels don’t matter because I’m genuinely seeing what I would fit in under.

This is a throwaway because I don’t come to the sex Reddit often.