Help finding more ideas for dom play? /u/StarshipEngineer Sex

I’ve (M) done some light dom stuff with my wife (F) for most of our relationship, and she loves doing things I want and usually wants me to make choices in the bedroom. We communicate well and try things, but I’m a little vanilla by nature and she’s the only partner I’ve ever had, so I feel like my imagination is lacking in ideas on being the dominant partner she likes, and I’m trying to be a better partner by countering that.

While we do talk to each other about what we want, I recognize that part of the appeal in being submissive is not having to come up with ideas or decide things, so it feels unfair to offload all the idea generating on her, which is the reason I’m posting here. I want to bring some fun surprises to try rather than asking her to come up with all the ideas! At the same time, while being dom is fun because it pleases her and I’ve also come to like it in its own right, and I love to do it for her, in everyday life it is not really my nature, as I normally am averse to control whether through force or otherwise. As such dominant or rough sex is usually not the first thing I think of to do, though like I said I want to do those things within what she is comfortable with.

So is there anything you’d recommend (or even better, some sources of ideas) that will help me expand the dom experience I can bring her? In looking through the sub, sensual dom and praise kink describe well my natural style, so ideas on that track are good, but she does also like stuff with more physical control/restraint/inertia (I don’t like “force” because of the association with nonconsent), and this is probably where I need to work harder to come up with ideas.

I’ve (M) done some light dom stuff with my wife (F) for most of our relationship, and she loves doing things I want and usually wants me to make choices in the bedroom. We communicate well and try things, but I’m a little vanilla by nature and she’s the only partner I’ve ever had, so I feel like my imagination is lacking in ideas on being the dominant partner she likes, and I’m trying to be a better partner by countering that.

While we do talk to each other about what we want, I recognize that part of the appeal in being submissive is not having to come up with ideas or decide things, so it feels unfair to offload all the idea generating on her, which is the reason I’m posting here. I want to bring some fun surprises to try rather than asking her to come up with all the ideas! At the same time, while being dom is fun because it pleases her and I’ve also come to like it in its own right, and I love to do it for her, in everyday life it is not really my nature, as I normally am averse to control whether through force or otherwise. As such dominant or rough sex is usually not the first thing I think of to do, though like I said I want to do those things within what she is comfortable with.

So is there anything you’d recommend (or even better, some sources of ideas) that will help me expand the dom experience I can bring her? In looking through the sub, sensual dom and praise kink describe well my natural style, so ideas on that track are good, but she does also like stuff with more physical control/restraint/inertia (I don’t like “force” because of the association with nonconsent), and this is probably where I need to work harder to come up with ideas.