My bf doesn’t come during sex and it makes me insecure /u/ThrowRAalwaysproblem Sex

Throw away because my boyfriend has my Reddit account on his phone.

My boyfriend (21m) and I (20f) have been together for 7 months. Up until 2 weeks ago we were having amazing sex but now things have changed.

At the very beginning of our relationship he couldn’t come while he was penetrating me. He had no problem getting hard, and he could go forever but after some time (maybe every one hour) it started to hurt so I had to stop him and then he finished himself off. At that time I asked him about it and he could really point out why he wasn’t able to ejaculate but he said I had nothing to worry about and it had nothing to do with me. I did some research on my own and found that when a man masturbates too much, he becomes very good at knowing exactly how to please himself (pressure and intensity). As a result, any other stimulation will not feel as good. I asked him if this was the case for him and he said that it made sense, given that last time he had had sex was 8 months prior to meeting me.
After a few more times he was finally able to come when we were having sex and I was really happy and felt relieved.

Fast forward to now, we are living the same situation we had at the beginning, except this time I really can’t figure out the reason and it is starting to make me insecure. He says it’s just because he is stressed, but the thing is: he initiates sex every time he sees me, he makes me come within the first 15/20 minutes and then he keeps going and going hammering and pounding me (which feel awful) and I let him do it because I feel guilty if he doesn’t come but in my head all I can think about is the moment he will stop. Eventually he gets tired (maybe 40minutes in, when I’m lucky 30 and when he has a lot of energy can go up to 1 hour) and ends up masturbating next to me.

The problem is that in this way he is making me hate having sex with him, it makes me extremely insecure because I think I’m the problem and I’ve been overthinking everything at this point (some good example of my thoughts: is he not attracted to me anymore? Does he not like my body? Am I doing something wrong? Is he seeing someone else?)

I think it’s a very sensitive topic for him because I tried to talk to him about it once and he was visibly embarrassed.

I don’t want to say anything that could hurt his feelings and I don’t want to mess up the relationship but I can’t go on like this. Any help on how to bring it up or any suggestions that could resolve our issue?

Tltr: my boyfriend of 7 months hasn’t been able to come during sex in the past few weeks and it is making me feel insecure about my body and it’s affecting my relationship with him. How do I bring up this conversation?

Throw away because my boyfriend has my Reddit account on his phone.

My boyfriend (21m) and I (20f) have been together for 7 months. Up until 2 weeks ago we were having amazing sex but now things have changed.

At the very beginning of our relationship he couldn’t come while he was penetrating me. He had no problem getting hard, and he could go forever but after some time (maybe every one hour) it started to hurt so I had to stop him and then he finished himself off. At that time I asked him about it and he could really point out why he wasn’t able to ejaculate but he said I had nothing to worry about and it had nothing to do with me. I did some research on my own and found that when a man masturbates too much, he becomes very good at knowing exactly how to please himself (pressure and intensity). As a result, any other stimulation will not feel as good. I asked him if this was the case for him and he said that it made sense, given that last time he had had sex was 8 months prior to meeting me.
After a few more times he was finally able to come when we were having sex and I was really happy and felt relieved.

Fast forward to now, we are living the same situation we had at the beginning, except this time I really can’t figure out the reason and it is starting to make me insecure. He says it’s just because he is stressed, but the thing is: he initiates sex every time he sees me, he makes me come within the first 15/20 minutes and then he keeps going and going hammering and pounding me (which feel awful) and I let him do it because I feel guilty if he doesn’t come but in my head all I can think about is the moment he will stop. Eventually he gets tired (maybe 40minutes in, when I’m lucky 30 and when he has a lot of energy can go up to 1 hour) and ends up masturbating next to me.

The problem is that in this way he is making me hate having sex with him, it makes me extremely insecure because I think I’m the problem and I’ve been overthinking everything at this point (some good example of my thoughts: is he not attracted to me anymore? Does he not like my body? Am I doing something wrong? Is he seeing someone else?)

I think it’s a very sensitive topic for him because I tried to talk to him about it once and he was visibly embarrassed.

I don’t want to say anything that could hurt his feelings and I don’t want to mess up the relationship but I can’t go on like this. Any help on how to bring it up or any suggestions that could resolve our issue?

Tltr: my boyfriend of 7 months hasn’t been able to come during sex in the past few weeks and it is making me feel insecure about my body and it’s affecting my relationship with him. How do I bring up this conversation?