So, um, I don’t have therapy until Tuesday and I’m not really sure if I’m comfortable with my therapist enough to ask questions about personal things like sex yet. I take time to open up, really, and I don’t really have anyone to talk about sex with, so I try to talk about it here, anonymously, with people I feel I can trust to an extent.
It’s really hard to find people who are older and more experienced than yourself to talk about sex with platonically in a way that can help me and my self esteem, especially without having to worry about my safety or their intentions.
That being said, um, hi. I go by Sneezes on reddit, and I’m 18. It’s hard for me to talk to people about intimacy and relationships and whenever I try to talk to people about it, it’s always the same, vague, frustrating answer: “you should take the time to work on yourself first.”
And I mean, I am. I’m going to therapy, I’m trying to be more positive, take care of my body, and handle situations in my life with more awareness. I know that I’m not ready for a serious relationship yet, I have a long ways to go for that in terms of my mental health and maturity, but just because I’m not ready… does that mean I don’t deserve to have any of my needs met?
I’m tired of masturbating. I already figured out what works best for me— it’s like I’ve played a video game and unlocked all the cheat codes, and now I can beat the final boss three times in five minutes. It’s so… boring in a way.
Like is it that I don’t love myself enough? Do I just need to have sex with a mirror? Do I need to download an app and have meaningless hookups with strangers?
I don’t want to have sex with people I don’t really know. I don’t want to have dates with someone who’s going to be attached. I want to have sex, have fun, feel connected just like, as a friendly activity or something? I don’t know why everyone makes such a big deal about it, why I’m like, not allowed to talk about it. I want to talk about sex and think about it all the time it’s so interesting to me and seemingly no one else.
Look, I know what I want and what I deserve. I want sexual partners who I know well, trust, and can take care of. Who I have a relationship with, that might be romantic or friendlike, or platonic, but not something constricting or too serious. I just want to have sex like what it is, just fucking sex. Why does it have to be such a serious thing?
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r/sex So, um, I don’t have therapy until Tuesday and I’m not really sure if I’m comfortable with my therapist enough to ask questions about personal things like sex yet. I take time to open up, really, and I don’t really have anyone to talk about sex with, so I try to talk about it here, anonymously, with people I feel I can trust to an extent. It’s really hard to find people who are older and more experienced than yourself to talk about sex with platonically in a way that can help me and my self esteem, especially without having to worry about my safety or their intentions. That being said, um, hi. I go by Sneezes on reddit, and I’m 18. It’s hard for me to talk to people about intimacy and relationships and whenever I try to talk to people about it, it’s always the same, vague, frustrating answer: “you should take the time to work on yourself first.” And I mean, I am. I’m going to therapy, I’m trying to be more positive, take care of my body, and handle situations in my life with more awareness. I know that I’m not ready for a serious relationship yet, I have a long ways to go for that in terms of my mental health and maturity, but just because I’m not ready… does that mean I don’t deserve to have any of my needs met? I’m tired of masturbating. I already figured out what works best for me— it’s like I’ve played a video game and unlocked all the cheat codes, and now I can beat the final boss three times in five minutes. It’s so… boring in a way. Like is it that I don’t love myself enough? Do I just need to have sex with a mirror? Do I need to download an app and have meaningless hookups with strangers? I don’t want to have sex with people I don’t really know. I don’t want to have dates with someone who’s going to be attached. I want to have sex, have fun, feel connected just like, as a friendly activity or something? I don’t know why everyone makes such a big deal about it, why I’m like, not allowed to talk about it. I want to talk about sex and think about it all the time it’s so interesting to me and seemingly no one else. Look, I know what I want and what I deserve. I want sexual partners who I know well, trust, and can take care of. Who I have a relationship with, that might be romantic or friendlike, or platonic, but not something constricting or too serious. I just want to have sex like what it is, just fucking sex. Why does it have to be such a serious thing? submitted by /u/BbqBrn27 [link] [comments]
So, um, I don’t have therapy until Tuesday and I’m not really sure if I’m comfortable with my therapist enough to ask questions about personal things like sex yet. I take time to open up, really, and I don’t really have anyone to talk about sex with, so I try to talk about it here, anonymously, with people I feel I can trust to an extent.
It’s really hard to find people who are older and more experienced than yourself to talk about sex with platonically in a way that can help me and my self esteem, especially without having to worry about my safety or their intentions.
That being said, um, hi. I go by Sneezes on reddit, and I’m 18. It’s hard for me to talk to people about intimacy and relationships and whenever I try to talk to people about it, it’s always the same, vague, frustrating answer: “you should take the time to work on yourself first.”
And I mean, I am. I’m going to therapy, I’m trying to be more positive, take care of my body, and handle situations in my life with more awareness. I know that I’m not ready for a serious relationship yet, I have a long ways to go for that in terms of my mental health and maturity, but just because I’m not ready… does that mean I don’t deserve to have any of my needs met?
I’m tired of masturbating. I already figured out what works best for me— it’s like I’ve played a video game and unlocked all the cheat codes, and now I can beat the final boss three times in five minutes. It’s so… boring in a way.
Like is it that I don’t love myself enough? Do I just need to have sex with a mirror? Do I need to download an app and have meaningless hookups with strangers?
I don’t want to have sex with people I don’t really know. I don’t want to have dates with someone who’s going to be attached. I want to have sex, have fun, feel connected just like, as a friendly activity or something? I don’t know why everyone makes such a big deal about it, why I’m like, not allowed to talk about it. I want to talk about sex and think about it all the time it’s so interesting to me and seemingly no one else.
Look, I know what I want and what I deserve. I want sexual partners who I know well, trust, and can take care of. Who I have a relationship with, that might be romantic or friendlike, or platonic, but not something constricting or too serious. I just want to have sex like what it is, just fucking sex. Why does it have to be such a serious thing?
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