why does sex not feel sexually arousing or exciting to me? /u/NumberPossible7275 Sex

hey. i’m a 19 year old gay man. i’ve had sex 4 times now and each time, i just wasn’t really feeling it to be honest. i of course gave head to all my partners and i grew bored very fast. the up and down motions made my head spin and soon the smell of dried saliva started bugging me. even when we’d switch to me getting head, i could barely feel anything. it was just okay. i’ve tried bottoming twice and didn’t like it. i topped a few times and it felt alright i guess. i struggled to keep a boner. then i would occasionally get whiffs of butt which further turned me off. each sexual encounter was pretty boring for me honestly. i made it great for my partners but secretly i couldn’t wait until it was over. i even took a long time to finish with them and that never happens when i’m masturbating. i can get very excited and finish quickly by myself so i know my D works? but not with others. i just can’t get into it. why could this be? maybe sex just isn’t for me.

hey. i’m a 19 year old gay man. i’ve had sex 4 times now and each time, i just wasn’t really feeling it to be honest. i of course gave head to all my partners and i grew bored very fast. the up and down motions made my head spin and soon the smell of dried saliva started bugging me. even when we’d switch to me getting head, i could barely feel anything. it was just okay. i’ve tried bottoming twice and didn’t like it. i topped a few times and it felt alright i guess. i struggled to keep a boner. then i would occasionally get whiffs of butt which further turned me off. each sexual encounter was pretty boring for me honestly. i made it great for my partners but secretly i couldn’t wait until it was over. i even took a long time to finish with them and that never happens when i’m masturbating. i can get very excited and finish quickly by myself so i know my D works? but not with others. i just can’t get into it. why could this be? maybe sex just isn’t for me.