To be clear, I still find him physically attractive. I think he’s beautiful, a gorgeous man, exactly my type. His body is so sexy to me. He treats me so well. I’m proud to stand next to him, I love to look at him across the dinner table, I want to want to have sex with him, but when it comes time to actually do it, it feels like kissing a cousin.
We had sexual chemistry but it’s gone. We’ve been together for six years and all of the best sex of my life has been with my husband. It’s not even close. In fleeting moments, I wondered if I should’ve prioritized dating someone with more money or more education, but happily dismissed the idea because not only am I truly in love, but the sex was so good that I knew I wouldn’t be happier with more money but worse sex.
I suspect this may be a hormonal thing. I had a mirena IUD put in a month after we started sleeping together, and that IUD stayed in place until four months ago. A few weeks after the IUD came out, I lost my sexual attraction to my husband and it hasn’t come back even a little bit. My sex drive has never been higher and in a lot of ways the sex has never been “better” but it always leaves me feeling unsatisfied.
I came off of birth control because we’re planning to try to have a baby together this year. I’ve considered whether this sudden and upsetting drop in sexual desire might be apprehension about the baby, but I don’t think that’s it. I still want to have a baby. I want to have the baby so much, with him, with my husband!
But now I don’t know if want to lock myself into a lifelong marriage and parenting partnership of sex that doesn’t do it for me anymore. I feel like I’ve tried everything. Omgyes. Communication, so much communication. Toys in bed. New locations. Our relationship has never been happier or healthier. I have joyful nights out with friends. We both have our own separate hobbies and our together hobbies. I’m living in a dream marriage, and I have an incredibly high sex drive… just not for him. For nearly anyone but him.
This has done such a number on my self esteem. I am so ashamed to be having all this sex that I secretly hate, to be so horny all the time in a way I can’t manage, to have to keep such a cruel secret from someone I love so much and who gives himself to me so freely and in such a vulnerable way. What is wrong with me that I can’t just be a happy wife who loves to fuck her adoring hot husband?
What can I do? Am I doomed? It’s been months, will this pass? Do I just have the baby with the man I love and accept what comes after? Are my days of having good, fulfilling sex behind me? I’m only 28, we’ve been together since I was 22, basically my entire adult life. Is this just something that happens when you get older or are in a serious long-term relationship?
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r/sex To be clear, I still find him physically attractive. I think he’s beautiful, a gorgeous man, exactly my type. His body is so sexy to me. He treats me so well. I’m proud to stand next to him, I love to look at him across the dinner table, I want to want to have sex with him, but when it comes time to actually do it, it feels like kissing a cousin. We had sexual chemistry but it’s gone. We’ve been together for six years and all of the best sex of my life has been with my husband. It’s not even close. In fleeting moments, I wondered if I should’ve prioritized dating someone with more money or more education, but happily dismissed the idea because not only am I truly in love, but the sex was so good that I knew I wouldn’t be happier with more money but worse sex. I suspect this may be a hormonal thing. I had a mirena IUD put in a month after we started sleeping together, and that IUD stayed in place until four months ago. A few weeks after the IUD came out, I lost my sexual attraction to my husband and it hasn’t come back even a little bit. My sex drive has never been higher and in a lot of ways the sex has never been “better” but it always leaves me feeling unsatisfied. I came off of birth control because we’re planning to try to have a baby together this year. I’ve considered whether this sudden and upsetting drop in sexual desire might be apprehension about the baby, but I don’t think that’s it. I still want to have a baby. I want to have the baby so much, with him, with my husband! But now I don’t know if want to lock myself into a lifelong marriage and parenting partnership of sex that doesn’t do it for me anymore. I feel like I’ve tried everything. Omgyes. Communication, so much communication. Toys in bed. New locations. Our relationship has never been happier or healthier. I have joyful nights out with friends. We both have our own separate hobbies and our together hobbies. I’m living in a dream marriage, and I have an incredibly high sex drive… just not for him. For nearly anyone but him. This has done such a number on my self esteem. I am so ashamed to be having all this sex that I secretly hate, to be so horny all the time in a way I can’t manage, to have to keep such a cruel secret from someone I love so much and who gives himself to me so freely and in such a vulnerable way. What is wrong with me that I can’t just be a happy wife who loves to fuck her adoring hot husband? What can I do? Am I doomed? It’s been months, will this pass? Do I just have the baby with the man I love and accept what comes after? Are my days of having good, fulfilling sex behind me? I’m only 28, we’ve been together since I was 22, basically my entire adult life. Is this just something that happens when you get older or are in a serious long-term relationship? submitted by /u/lostblossom [link] [comments]
To be clear, I still find him physically attractive. I think he’s beautiful, a gorgeous man, exactly my type. His body is so sexy to me. He treats me so well. I’m proud to stand next to him, I love to look at him across the dinner table, I want to want to have sex with him, but when it comes time to actually do it, it feels like kissing a cousin.
We had sexual chemistry but it’s gone. We’ve been together for six years and all of the best sex of my life has been with my husband. It’s not even close. In fleeting moments, I wondered if I should’ve prioritized dating someone with more money or more education, but happily dismissed the idea because not only am I truly in love, but the sex was so good that I knew I wouldn’t be happier with more money but worse sex.
I suspect this may be a hormonal thing. I had a mirena IUD put in a month after we started sleeping together, and that IUD stayed in place until four months ago. A few weeks after the IUD came out, I lost my sexual attraction to my husband and it hasn’t come back even a little bit. My sex drive has never been higher and in a lot of ways the sex has never been “better” but it always leaves me feeling unsatisfied.
I came off of birth control because we’re planning to try to have a baby together this year. I’ve considered whether this sudden and upsetting drop in sexual desire might be apprehension about the baby, but I don’t think that’s it. I still want to have a baby. I want to have the baby so much, with him, with my husband!
But now I don’t know if want to lock myself into a lifelong marriage and parenting partnership of sex that doesn’t do it for me anymore. I feel like I’ve tried everything. Omgyes. Communication, so much communication. Toys in bed. New locations. Our relationship has never been happier or healthier. I have joyful nights out with friends. We both have our own separate hobbies and our together hobbies. I’m living in a dream marriage, and I have an incredibly high sex drive… just not for him. For nearly anyone but him.
This has done such a number on my self esteem. I am so ashamed to be having all this sex that I secretly hate, to be so horny all the time in a way I can’t manage, to have to keep such a cruel secret from someone I love so much and who gives himself to me so freely and in such a vulnerable way. What is wrong with me that I can’t just be a happy wife who loves to fuck her adoring hot husband?
What can I do? Am I doomed? It’s been months, will this pass? Do I just have the baby with the man I love and accept what comes after? Are my days of having good, fulfilling sex behind me? I’m only 28, we’ve been together since I was 22, basically my entire adult life. Is this just something that happens when you get older or are in a serious long-term relationship?
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