I’m a late twenties woman and, if it makes a difference, I’ve been a rather shy person my whole life. I’m also quite awkward and that tends to throw people off. It has been an ongoing battle but I’m not giving up (I have a full time job, I can’t afford to have bad people skills forever). Im not bad looking and I try to take care of myself, I go to the gym and watch what I eat. If I see a bit of fat where it shouldnt be, Im rectifying the situation as soon as possible.
As a teen, I was a bit of a late bloomer and I only got proper attention from the opposite sex when I was 16/17. Never much but more than I thought I would. I did experiment with men but I lost interest quickly. I also got some experience with women and, while it just does it for me from an emotional point of view (men just can’t be more than friends, no matter how much I would wish it were otherwise), during sex I’m in my head all the time.
Its a stressful experience, Im concerned about making sure my partner has a good time and, when they want to return the favor, I’m bewildered they even want to (I can’t explain) and I’m trying hard to get through with it as soon as possible, just so I don’t inconvenience them, if that makes sense. I was in a relationship with a borderline asexual person and it just made me feel awful about myself, as Im not asexual at all.
When I masturbate, I never picture myself having sex, rather faceless people getting it on. If I try to picture myself, I get so uncomfortable I can’t get through it.
Can anyone relate?
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r/sex I’m a late twenties woman and, if it makes a difference, I’ve been a rather shy person my whole life. I’m also quite awkward and that tends to throw people off. It has been an ongoing battle but I’m not giving up (I have a full time job, I can’t afford to have bad people skills forever). Im not bad looking and I try to take care of myself, I go to the gym and watch what I eat. If I see a bit of fat where it shouldnt be, Im rectifying the situation as soon as possible. As a teen, I was a bit of a late bloomer and I only got proper attention from the opposite sex when I was 16/17. Never much but more than I thought I would. I did experiment with men but I lost interest quickly. I also got some experience with women and, while it just does it for me from an emotional point of view (men just can’t be more than friends, no matter how much I would wish it were otherwise), during sex I’m in my head all the time. Its a stressful experience, Im concerned about making sure my partner has a good time and, when they want to return the favor, I’m bewildered they even want to (I can’t explain) and I’m trying hard to get through with it as soon as possible, just so I don’t inconvenience them, if that makes sense. I was in a relationship with a borderline asexual person and it just made me feel awful about myself, as Im not asexual at all. When I masturbate, I never picture myself having sex, rather faceless people getting it on. If I try to picture myself, I get so uncomfortable I can’t get through it. Can anyone relate? submitted by /u/GloucesterRoad93 [link] [comments]
I’m a late twenties woman and, if it makes a difference, I’ve been a rather shy person my whole life. I’m also quite awkward and that tends to throw people off. It has been an ongoing battle but I’m not giving up (I have a full time job, I can’t afford to have bad people skills forever). Im not bad looking and I try to take care of myself, I go to the gym and watch what I eat. If I see a bit of fat where it shouldnt be, Im rectifying the situation as soon as possible.
As a teen, I was a bit of a late bloomer and I only got proper attention from the opposite sex when I was 16/17. Never much but more than I thought I would. I did experiment with men but I lost interest quickly. I also got some experience with women and, while it just does it for me from an emotional point of view (men just can’t be more than friends, no matter how much I would wish it were otherwise), during sex I’m in my head all the time.
Its a stressful experience, Im concerned about making sure my partner has a good time and, when they want to return the favor, I’m bewildered they even want to (I can’t explain) and I’m trying hard to get through with it as soon as possible, just so I don’t inconvenience them, if that makes sense. I was in a relationship with a borderline asexual person and it just made me feel awful about myself, as Im not asexual at all.
When I masturbate, I never picture myself having sex, rather faceless people getting it on. If I try to picture myself, I get so uncomfortable I can’t get through it.
Can anyone relate?
submitted by /u/GloucesterRoad93
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