Been seeing this girl for about a month now. She’s great and we really enjoy spending time with each other and are now exclusive so we’ve been more open on communication. I’ve always been able to make other partners climax multiple times whether thats from PIV,Oral,and or finger stimulation on the clit. She says it’s her and not me but I don’t know how that sits with me.
However, she simply can’t climax without a vibrator and I think it’s really putting a mental block on me now. I told her I’d buy her one to keep at my place because I really get off on pleasing the other partner. I’m 100% a giver and don’t mind.
She has an IUD and says she is ‘spotting’ and says she doesn’t want me to perform oral on her until it stops, which is 6 months….which is a huge bummer. She has also told me that she can’t climax even with her own fingers. Is this the female equivalent of ‘death grip’ for us males?
I’d say I keep it spicy and new positions and ideas, etc. and can personally last a long time because I just want my partner to feel pleased and they all have but now this case isn’t the same. The fact she can’t climax without a vibrator with me is really taking a mental toll on me.
I told her I’m all for it and that I think it would be hot to have her climax with a vibrator but in the back of my head I keep thinking that I’m not good enough for her in bed? Am I being extremely selfish right now with how I’m thinking? This is a first time situation for me where I can’t make a girl climax w/o external toys. Regardless, I can’t wait to use them on her while we have sex but I’m afraid I’m going to get that “Performance” Mental Block and think I’m not good enough now all of a sudden.
Any and all advise would be much appreciated!
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r/sex Been seeing this girl for about a month now. She’s great and we really enjoy spending time with each other and are now exclusive so we’ve been more open on communication. I’ve always been able to make other partners climax multiple times whether thats from PIV,Oral,and or finger stimulation on the clit. She says it’s her and not me but I don’t know how that sits with me. However, she simply can’t climax without a vibrator and I think it’s really putting a mental block on me now. I told her I’d buy her one to keep at my place because I really get off on pleasing the other partner. I’m 100% a giver and don’t mind. She has an IUD and says she is ‘spotting’ and says she doesn’t want me to perform oral on her until it stops, which is 6 months….which is a huge bummer. She has also told me that she can’t climax even with her own fingers. Is this the female equivalent of ‘death grip’ for us males? I’d say I keep it spicy and new positions and ideas, etc. and can personally last a long time because I just want my partner to feel pleased and they all have but now this case isn’t the same. The fact she can’t climax without a vibrator with me is really taking a mental toll on me. I told her I’m all for it and that I think it would be hot to have her climax with a vibrator but in the back of my head I keep thinking that I’m not good enough for her in bed? Am I being extremely selfish right now with how I’m thinking? This is a first time situation for me where I can’t make a girl climax w/o external toys. Regardless, I can’t wait to use them on her while we have sex but I’m afraid I’m going to get that “Performance” Mental Block and think I’m not good enough now all of a sudden. Any and all advise would be much appreciated! submitted by /u/CSdork123 [link] [comments]
Been seeing this girl for about a month now. She’s great and we really enjoy spending time with each other and are now exclusive so we’ve been more open on communication. I’ve always been able to make other partners climax multiple times whether thats from PIV,Oral,and or finger stimulation on the clit. She says it’s her and not me but I don’t know how that sits with me.
However, she simply can’t climax without a vibrator and I think it’s really putting a mental block on me now. I told her I’d buy her one to keep at my place because I really get off on pleasing the other partner. I’m 100% a giver and don’t mind.
She has an IUD and says she is ‘spotting’ and says she doesn’t want me to perform oral on her until it stops, which is 6 months….which is a huge bummer. She has also told me that she can’t climax even with her own fingers. Is this the female equivalent of ‘death grip’ for us males?
I’d say I keep it spicy and new positions and ideas, etc. and can personally last a long time because I just want my partner to feel pleased and they all have but now this case isn’t the same. The fact she can’t climax without a vibrator with me is really taking a mental toll on me.
I told her I’m all for it and that I think it would be hot to have her climax with a vibrator but in the back of my head I keep thinking that I’m not good enough for her in bed? Am I being extremely selfish right now with how I’m thinking? This is a first time situation for me where I can’t make a girl climax w/o external toys. Regardless, I can’t wait to use them on her while we have sex but I’m afraid I’m going to get that “Performance” Mental Block and think I’m not good enough now all of a sudden.
Any and all advise would be much appreciated!
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