We’ve been together for 30 years, since I was 19. I’d classify myself as a giver. It’s a very rare session if I don’t get her to come 4-5 times and upwards of 15-20 times. I research techniques. I try new things. Anything to be better than I was last time. I want to keep it fresh and fun and I really get off on her having a good time. I go all in for learning as much as I can to adding any toy I can think expands things that she might like. I’m still pretty HL and could easily be an everyday person, but over the years we have varied from once every week or to, to maybe 2-3 times a week. Currently we’re closer to 2-3 times a week when I’m home, but I’ve been away for weeks at a time lately. So it probably averages less than once every two weeks.
However, while I get mine, on my side it’s basically PIV in missionary or Doggy or nothing. Maybe a BJ every 10-15 times, and a lack luster one at that. Put it in perspective, I’ve never cum from a BJ, but I don’t think it’s due to lack of ability.
We’ve talked. I’ve expressed interest in her being more expressive/exploritory. She has never been able to verbalize any fantasy or specific desires for herself. Lots of “you know what I like”, etc… So it’s left to me to open things up, which I do and try hard. I just feel there’s a serious lack of reciprocation. When I bring it up, it usually starts a fight because it comes across and criticizing, which I get as it kinda is.
I’m not overall unhappy, just feel like I put a lot into things and not a whole lot out of it. It’s still fun because I make it that way, but I’d love a bit more returned. Open to opinions, maybe I’m just venting on a throwaway. IDK.
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r/sex We’ve been together for 30 years, since I was 19. I’d classify myself as a giver. It’s a very rare session if I don’t get her to come 4-5 times and upwards of 15-20 times. I research techniques. I try new things. Anything to be better than I was last time. I want to keep it fresh and fun and I really get off on her having a good time. I go all in for learning as much as I can to adding any toy I can think expands things that she might like. I’m still pretty HL and could easily be an everyday person, but over the years we have varied from once every week or to, to maybe 2-3 times a week. Currently we’re closer to 2-3 times a week when I’m home, but I’ve been away for weeks at a time lately. So it probably averages less than once every two weeks. However, while I get mine, on my side it’s basically PIV in missionary or Doggy or nothing. Maybe a BJ every 10-15 times, and a lack luster one at that. Put it in perspective, I’ve never cum from a BJ, but I don’t think it’s due to lack of ability. We’ve talked. I’ve expressed interest in her being more expressive/exploritory. She has never been able to verbalize any fantasy or specific desires for herself. Lots of “you know what I like”, etc… So it’s left to me to open things up, which I do and try hard. I just feel there’s a serious lack of reciprocation. When I bring it up, it usually starts a fight because it comes across and criticizing, which I get as it kinda is. I’m not overall unhappy, just feel like I put a lot into things and not a whole lot out of it. It’s still fun because I make it that way, but I’d love a bit more returned. Open to opinions, maybe I’m just venting on a throwaway. IDK. submitted by /u/Late_Meaning_2328 [link] [comments]
We’ve been together for 30 years, since I was 19. I’d classify myself as a giver. It’s a very rare session if I don’t get her to come 4-5 times and upwards of 15-20 times. I research techniques. I try new things. Anything to be better than I was last time. I want to keep it fresh and fun and I really get off on her having a good time. I go all in for learning as much as I can to adding any toy I can think expands things that she might like. I’m still pretty HL and could easily be an everyday person, but over the years we have varied from once every week or to, to maybe 2-3 times a week. Currently we’re closer to 2-3 times a week when I’m home, but I’ve been away for weeks at a time lately. So it probably averages less than once every two weeks.
However, while I get mine, on my side it’s basically PIV in missionary or Doggy or nothing. Maybe a BJ every 10-15 times, and a lack luster one at that. Put it in perspective, I’ve never cum from a BJ, but I don’t think it’s due to lack of ability.
We’ve talked. I’ve expressed interest in her being more expressive/exploritory. She has never been able to verbalize any fantasy or specific desires for herself. Lots of “you know what I like”, etc… So it’s left to me to open things up, which I do and try hard. I just feel there’s a serious lack of reciprocation. When I bring it up, it usually starts a fight because it comes across and criticizing, which I get as it kinda is.
I’m not overall unhappy, just feel like I put a lot into things and not a whole lot out of it. It’s still fun because I make it that way, but I’d love a bit more returned. Open to opinions, maybe I’m just venting on a throwaway. IDK.
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