Couple, GF is never in the mood anymore please help /u/notmyaxtualreddit Sex

Throwaway account, but need some advice here if anyone has been in a similar situation.

TLDR; gf’s formally high and exciting libido has all but disappeared, need advice.

I (M 25) and GF (F25) have had a serious lack of sexual compatibility lately, and we just can’t find a solution. She’s helping me write this because we just can’t seem to get in the groove but both want to desperately.

Been together 1.5 years, honeymoon phase was hot and heavy, great sex pretty much every day if not multiple times, trying new things, exploring. Fantastic time for both of us. This lasted about 6 months, and as it usually goes we slowed down a bit, but were still very open to exploring and having sex around 3 times a week.

Over the last 3/4 months things have changed a lot though. Sex once every two weeks, sometimes longer, if I’m lucky we’ll go two weekends in a row. Very vanilla, quick, she’s in missionary or doggy and thats it. It feels like she’s just going through the motions to appease me and she feels the same way. My sex drive is still here, I always want her and I still want to try new things, toys, anything!

I’ve tried being sporadic, pulling her pants to the side while we’re just hanging out and eating her til she orgasms, and then she’s done and wants nothing to do with sex, and will never even return the favor. I’ve tried planning sex like I’ve read about in here before, and it almost always falls through due to a headache, stomach ache, or being too tired. I’ve tried slow and gentle foreplay, then she gets tired. After dates she’s right into bed and in her PJ’s before I can get back inside from walking the dog. I’ve surprised her with new toys (the rose, works phenomenally btw) and it’ll give her a day of excitement and then she’s back to not wanting anything.

I’ve talked to her about how I need more intimacy several times, and then she throws it back on me saying I only care about sex, I try telling her that I bring it up because it’s literally the only thing lacking in our relationship, but then she just cries and the conversation is over.

Today finally we talked about it without her crying and agreed we want to figure something out. She said she misses the passion and sex as much as I do, and she doesn’t understand why she can’t get in the mood like she used to. So, here I am asking you all. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

Throwaway account, but need some advice here if anyone has been in a similar situation.

TLDR; gf’s formally high and exciting libido has all but disappeared, need advice.

I (M 25) and GF (F25) have had a serious lack of sexual compatibility lately, and we just can’t find a solution. She’s helping me write this because we just can’t seem to get in the groove but both want to desperately.

Been together 1.5 years, honeymoon phase was hot and heavy, great sex pretty much every day if not multiple times, trying new things, exploring. Fantastic time for both of us. This lasted about 6 months, and as it usually goes we slowed down a bit, but were still very open to exploring and having sex around 3 times a week.

Over the last 3/4 months things have changed a lot though. Sex once every two weeks, sometimes longer, if I’m lucky we’ll go two weekends in a row. Very vanilla, quick, she’s in missionary or doggy and thats it. It feels like she’s just going through the motions to appease me and she feels the same way. My sex drive is still here, I always want her and I still want to try new things, toys, anything!

I’ve tried being sporadic, pulling her pants to the side while we’re just hanging out and eating her til she orgasms, and then she’s done and wants nothing to do with sex, and will never even return the favor. I’ve tried planning sex like I’ve read about in here before, and it almost always falls through due to a headache, stomach ache, or being too tired. I’ve tried slow and gentle foreplay, then she gets tired. After dates she’s right into bed and in her PJ’s before I can get back inside from walking the dog. I’ve surprised her with new toys (the rose, works phenomenally btw) and it’ll give her a day of excitement and then she’s back to not wanting anything.

I’ve talked to her about how I need more intimacy several times, and then she throws it back on me saying I only care about sex, I try telling her that I bring it up because it’s literally the only thing lacking in our relationship, but then she just cries and the conversation is over.

Today finally we talked about it without her crying and agreed we want to figure something out. She said she misses the passion and sex as much as I do, and she doesn’t understand why she can’t get in the mood like she used to. So, here I am asking you all. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you!