“lesbian” but I want to have sex with a guy? /u/doingstupidshjt Sex

I’m getting confused as a 23 year old woman who has only had sex with other women. I came out of the closet as a lesbian when I was 16 because I don’t find men attractive. I have never thought of a man as good looking or appealing to me before (no hate, men are awesome, just not attracted to any.)

I was in a serious relationship with a female nonbinary person who skewed towards masculinity and was thinking about transitioning someday. I was attracted to them initially because of their female body and face, however the idea of them transitioning was extremely appealing to me and I really liked their masculine energy. It made me start to think about how I actually do like penises, and I do like the idea of having a penis inside me. Since we broke up, I’ve been having fantasies about sleeping with a man.

Men have wanted to have sex with me throughout my life, but I’ve always turned them down because I don’t actually find them attractive. I’ve never seen a man that I actually wanted to have sex with. How do I proceed? Should I get on a dating app? I guess ideally I’d like to meet up with a guy and see how I feel and have sex with him depending on whether I wanted to in the moment/if it feels right. However I feel like that’s setting the guy up for disappointment. Overall I want to keep expectations of me really low because I don’t know if I’ll back out and I also don’t know what sex acts I’m willing to engage in (uncertain about blowjobs for example).

Is all of this a bad idea? Should I just stick with women? For the record I’m not asking about what my sexuality is, I’m viewing myself as bicurious right now and not worrying about it. If it turns out I like guys I’m willing to come out again as bi.

I’m getting confused as a 23 year old woman who has only had sex with other women. I came out of the closet as a lesbian when I was 16 because I don’t find men attractive. I have never thought of a man as good looking or appealing to me before (no hate, men are awesome, just not attracted to any.)

I was in a serious relationship with a female nonbinary person who skewed towards masculinity and was thinking about transitioning someday. I was attracted to them initially because of their female body and face, however the idea of them transitioning was extremely appealing to me and I really liked their masculine energy. It made me start to think about how I actually do like penises, and I do like the idea of having a penis inside me. Since we broke up, I’ve been having fantasies about sleeping with a man.

Men have wanted to have sex with me throughout my life, but I’ve always turned them down because I don’t actually find them attractive. I’ve never seen a man that I actually wanted to have sex with. How do I proceed? Should I get on a dating app? I guess ideally I’d like to meet up with a guy and see how I feel and have sex with him depending on whether I wanted to in the moment/if it feels right. However I feel like that’s setting the guy up for disappointment. Overall I want to keep expectations of me really low because I don’t know if I’ll back out and I also don’t know what sex acts I’m willing to engage in (uncertain about blowjobs for example).

Is all of this a bad idea? Should I just stick with women? For the record I’m not asking about what my sexuality is, I’m viewing myself as bicurious right now and not worrying about it. If it turns out I like guys I’m willing to come out again as bi.