Fiance just wants to be pounded /u/Civil_Web_6033 Sex

Hi everyone. I would appreciate some advice on my questions below that are different but all connected.

Context: I (33m) have been with my fiancé (34f) since we were 20/21. Our sex life has had ups and downs but in general it’s mostly been active and on the whole pretty good. Normally we have sex 2 or 3 times a week (normally at the weekend and maybe one evening in the week), sometimes a bit more, sometimes a bit less, but it’s been that way for the past few years, and it’s been good for both of us (I think). In the past few months our sex life is having a bit of a renaissance and we’ve been doing it at least daily, often 2 or 3 times a day.

Our sex is usually 10 mins or so foreplay, then sex usually lasts 15-30mins. Foreplay usually consists of making out, fingering, her giving me head (which she loves to do). All fine. When it comes to sex, she just wants to be pounded, as hard as I can, non-stop until I cum. She will continually says “fuck me harder” and the like. Whenever I take a break and slow down, she tries to hide it lol but I can tell she isn’t really into it and just wants to be pounded again. We normally stick to different variations of missionary, doggy and occasionally prone bone, normally at angles that give the deepest penetration (like missionary with a pillow under her bottom). I’m lucky to be fairly well endowed (bit over 8 inches) and she is very petite, so it’s not like I have a small dick and the only way she can get off is from those positions. She cums regularly and hard from deep piv penetration, so I get why she likes it.

The issue is though that I can’t keep up. My fitness has got a bit shit the past few years during lockdowns/wfh etc, and recently after about 10/15 mins of hard fucking (as hard and fast as I can physically do it) I get out of breath, hot/sweaty, leg cramp etc, and end up losing it. I need to stop and catch my breath for 5 mins, then eventually it comes back and we finish up. That’s not a problem in itself, but it can be a bit of a mood killer and to be honest I get a bit uncomfortable going from fucking her hard and rough one minute to sitting there with a flaccid dick the next minute and her lying there waiting to be fucked once again. Feels a bit pathetic to be honest. It’s also making me anxious about it happening in the future. I think this could be avoided by changing positions more often and also just going slower for a bit to pace it, but she doesn’t really like other positions because they aren’t deep enough, and one of her knees is also messed up from a sports injury a while back and so she can’t really do any positions with her on top for more than a couple of minutes.

The thing is, she doesn’t really like anything except for hard fucking in the positions I said above. I know her very well and can make her cum by going down on her with mouth + fingers pretty much every time, but usually after about 1 minute she says “it’s too much” or “it’s too intense” or something similar before she cums, and she and just wants to have sex again instead. I love going down on her but that is usually the extent of it. We will sometimes take a break and she will give me head for a bit or I’ll go down on her, but I can tell she wants to get right back to fucking. She is also a squirter sometimes from oral, so I get why she doesn’t want that to happen unless we are prepared, but I can easily stop before she does squirt. Same thing applies to fingering. I can make her cum from that also pretty easy, but again she normally says it’s too intense after a short time, and I can see on her face that she just wants sex instead.

Now for my questions:

Any general tips on how to handle this better? How can she get the same pleasure from hard and deep fucking (which I also enjoy) without me killing myself in the process? I’ve started hitting the gym again recently so that should help on my side. Is this a form of ED and something I should get checked out, or is this normal/expected from what I’ve described? My reasoning is I’ve basically done the equivalent of a hard workout for 15mins or something, and so it’s kind of to be expected. I could be way off though. What are some other positions we can do that are deep, and that won’t mess with her bad knee? How can I get her to be more into oral? I love going down on her and she cums regularly from it, but as I said above she normally tells me to stop after a minute or two because it’s too intense. It’s the perfect thing to have a break from the hard fucking and allow me to catch my breath, but she isn’t really into it

TIA

Hi everyone. I would appreciate some advice on my questions below that are different but all connected.

Context: I (33m) have been with my fiancé (34f) since we were 20/21. Our sex life has had ups and downs but in general it’s mostly been active and on the whole pretty good. Normally we have sex 2 or 3 times a week (normally at the weekend and maybe one evening in the week), sometimes a bit more, sometimes a bit less, but it’s been that way for the past few years, and it’s been good for both of us (I think). In the past few months our sex life is having a bit of a renaissance and we’ve been doing it at least daily, often 2 or 3 times a day.

Our sex is usually 10 mins or so foreplay, then sex usually lasts 15-30mins. Foreplay usually consists of making out, fingering, her giving me head (which she loves to do). All fine. When it comes to sex, she just wants to be pounded, as hard as I can, non-stop until I cum. She will continually says “fuck me harder” and the like. Whenever I take a break and slow down, she tries to hide it lol but I can tell she isn’t really into it and just wants to be pounded again. We normally stick to different variations of missionary, doggy and occasionally prone bone, normally at angles that give the deepest penetration (like missionary with a pillow under her bottom). I’m lucky to be fairly well endowed (bit over 8 inches) and she is very petite, so it’s not like I have a small dick and the only way she can get off is from those positions. She cums regularly and hard from deep piv penetration, so I get why she likes it.

The issue is though that I can’t keep up. My fitness has got a bit shit the past few years during lockdowns/wfh etc, and recently after about 10/15 mins of hard fucking (as hard and fast as I can physically do it) I get out of breath, hot/sweaty, leg cramp etc, and end up losing it. I need to stop and catch my breath for 5 mins, then eventually it comes back and we finish up. That’s not a problem in itself, but it can be a bit of a mood killer and to be honest I get a bit uncomfortable going from fucking her hard and rough one minute to sitting there with a flaccid dick the next minute and her lying there waiting to be fucked once again. Feels a bit pathetic to be honest. It’s also making me anxious about it happening in the future. I think this could be avoided by changing positions more often and also just going slower for a bit to pace it, but she doesn’t really like other positions because they aren’t deep enough, and one of her knees is also messed up from a sports injury a while back and so she can’t really do any positions with her on top for more than a couple of minutes.

The thing is, she doesn’t really like anything except for hard fucking in the positions I said above. I know her very well and can make her cum by going down on her with mouth + fingers pretty much every time, but usually after about 1 minute she says “it’s too much” or “it’s too intense” or something similar before she cums, and she and just wants to have sex again instead. I love going down on her but that is usually the extent of it. We will sometimes take a break and she will give me head for a bit or I’ll go down on her, but I can tell she wants to get right back to fucking. She is also a squirter sometimes from oral, so I get why she doesn’t want that to happen unless we are prepared, but I can easily stop before she does squirt. Same thing applies to fingering. I can make her cum from that also pretty easy, but again she normally says it’s too intense after a short time, and I can see on her face that she just wants sex instead.

Now for my questions:

Any general tips on how to handle this better? How can she get the same pleasure from hard and deep fucking (which I also enjoy) without me killing myself in the process? I’ve started hitting the gym again recently so that should help on my side. Is this a form of ED and something I should get checked out, or is this normal/expected from what I’ve described? My reasoning is I’ve basically done the equivalent of a hard workout for 15mins or something, and so it’s kind of to be expected. I could be way off though. What are some other positions we can do that are deep, and that won’t mess with her bad knee? How can I get her to be more into oral? I love going down on her and she cums regularly from it, but as I said above she normally tells me to stop after a minute or two because it’s too intense. It’s the perfect thing to have a break from the hard fucking and allow me to catch my breath, but she isn’t really into it

TIA