i dont know what to do during sex /u/Acrobatic-Active-543 Sex

hello, im 22F and i dont have much sexual experience. i am in my first serious relationship with a guy and it seems like he finds me weird in bed. i can totally understand but let me explain my side and how im feeling.

first of all, i am sexually attracted to him, and i am very emotional, so its not like that i dont feel anything on the emotional level. i am not numb or not interested in it whatsoever.

here is the real issue, i dont feel much out of it physically. logically i feel it inside me but, i dont get much pleasure… ive read a lot of tips and tricks and i hate when they say just go with the flow. but i dont know how to act when i dont really get much of a sensation that would stimulate me to act like natural. i always find myself thinking of what to say or do and being scared to do it because i dont want it to sound fake, i think being fake in any way would be hurtful.

i also tried talking to him asking him to tell me what he would want, what he likes so i could learn, but he is being a bit way too respectful because he says he doesnt want to tell me what to do it should just happen naturally. (but then proceeds to complain how im weird)

also, i dont really get horny that often… sigh, at this point it feel like im broken or something…

i dont mind the dirty talk but im always afraid i would say something that would turn him off… well, i end up turning him off regardless by being mostly silent.

i want to be a good partner, i have a lot of sexual fantasies and im sure i can be like ‘nasty and wild’ but i hope someone understands how hard it is to let the animal inside u awake when you barely feel any sensation. (i dont think his size is the issue, idk seems like pretty decent to me)

keep in mind i also dont really care to get pleasure out of it, ngl ive lived 22 years of my life without it, i can survive with only pleasuring myself. But i love my boyfriend and i want to make him feel good. Any advice would be appreciated :3

hello, im 22F and i dont have much sexual experience. i am in my first serious relationship with a guy and it seems like he finds me weird in bed. i can totally understand but let me explain my side and how im feeling.

first of all, i am sexually attracted to him, and i am very emotional, so its not like that i dont feel anything on the emotional level. i am not numb or not interested in it whatsoever.

here is the real issue, i dont feel much out of it physically. logically i feel it inside me but, i dont get much pleasure… ive read a lot of tips and tricks and i hate when they say just go with the flow. but i dont know how to act when i dont really get much of a sensation that would stimulate me to act like natural. i always find myself thinking of what to say or do and being scared to do it because i dont want it to sound fake, i think being fake in any way would be hurtful.

i also tried talking to him asking him to tell me what he would want, what he likes so i could learn, but he is being a bit way too respectful because he says he doesnt want to tell me what to do it should just happen naturally. (but then proceeds to complain how im weird)

also, i dont really get horny that often… sigh, at this point it feel like im broken or something…

i dont mind the dirty talk but im always afraid i would say something that would turn him off… well, i end up turning him off regardless by being mostly silent.

i want to be a good partner, i have a lot of sexual fantasies and im sure i can be like ‘nasty and wild’ but i hope someone understands how hard it is to let the animal inside u awake when you barely feel any sensation. (i dont think his size is the issue, idk seems like pretty decent to me)

keep in mind i also dont really care to get pleasure out of it, ngl ive lived 22 years of my life without it, i can survive with only pleasuring myself. But i love my boyfriend and i want to make him feel good. Any advice would be appreciated :3