My sex drive is high and annoys me. What do I do? /u/10throwawayantsy Sex

I’m in my 20s, F, and my sex drive is weird. It’s definitely a problem. Also, just to clarify, I do not want to communicate with any of you in any type of private 1-1 basis, so don’t try to 🙂

So, I’ll provide context. I had some abusive experiences growing up, that obviously didn’t help. Since I was 13, really, I’ve been incredibly horny to the point of it making me uncomfortable. I constantly think about sex in class, or any other situation. I lightly fantasize about sex with most people in my life, or I at least picture them having sex.

I’m horny at really horrible times, like seeing Christmas lights with my family. I was wearing a ponytail and my own hair touching my back made me horny. Do you know how horrible that is? When I was younger (like, college) I regularly missed classes or engagements because I Was having sex or masturbating. I was miserable and felt horrible about myself. I hired a secretary to plan out my schedule, talk to men on dating apps, and set of times for me to go have sex with them. It honestly didn’t really matter who it was, because I could get turned on by almost anyone. I had 3 appointments in 1 day, and that wasn’t that weird for me. I got in really bad situations all the time because I was constantly chasing penis, and didn’t care how horrible the person who was attached to it was.

Then, I started taking antidepressants, and it’s now at a more appropriate level, but I still feel like it’s not normal. Right after I started taking them, like a month after, I was able to actually have a stable, normal relationship, and I love him a lot. I think started taking birth control, anti-anxiety meds, ADHD meds, all with side effects of “lowering sex drive.” Did it do anything? Not really.

But basically, I still fantasize about everyone, and I suck at boundaries, partially because I have issues, but also because I’m always horny. I probably turn down by boyfriend for sex once a year. I’m constantly aroused and always feel like a pervert because I have intrusive sexual thoughts all the time.

I don’t get why it’s so high.

I’m in my 20s, F, and my sex drive is weird. It’s definitely a problem. Also, just to clarify, I do not want to communicate with any of you in any type of private 1-1 basis, so don’t try to 🙂

So, I’ll provide context. I had some abusive experiences growing up, that obviously didn’t help. Since I was 13, really, I’ve been incredibly horny to the point of it making me uncomfortable. I constantly think about sex in class, or any other situation. I lightly fantasize about sex with most people in my life, or I at least picture them having sex.

I’m horny at really horrible times, like seeing Christmas lights with my family. I was wearing a ponytail and my own hair touching my back made me horny. Do you know how horrible that is? When I was younger (like, college) I regularly missed classes or engagements because I Was having sex or masturbating. I was miserable and felt horrible about myself. I hired a secretary to plan out my schedule, talk to men on dating apps, and set of times for me to go have sex with them. It honestly didn’t really matter who it was, because I could get turned on by almost anyone. I had 3 appointments in 1 day, and that wasn’t that weird for me. I got in really bad situations all the time because I was constantly chasing penis, and didn’t care how horrible the person who was attached to it was.

Then, I started taking antidepressants, and it’s now at a more appropriate level, but I still feel like it’s not normal. Right after I started taking them, like a month after, I was able to actually have a stable, normal relationship, and I love him a lot. I think started taking birth control, anti-anxiety meds, ADHD meds, all with side effects of “lowering sex drive.” Did it do anything? Not really.

But basically, I still fantasize about everyone, and I suck at boundaries, partially because I have issues, but also because I’m always horny. I probably turn down by boyfriend for sex once a year. I’m constantly aroused and always feel like a pervert because I have intrusive sexual thoughts all the time.

I don’t get why it’s so high.