My boyfriend thinks all attempts at intimacy is me trying to initiate sex /u/tatsdogsandcats Sex

I do have a way higher libido than my partner, but after a few talks it’s not been an issue, I understand his needs and I felt he understands mine, right up until recently.

We both got very unwell, I ended up in hospital for a couple of weeks and when I got out I went to go visit family for a bit as it was already planned, when I got back I was still ill, and he has sustained a gym injury which meant we’d had very little want or ability to have sex for about a month, which has never happened in our relationship before.

It’s always been an agreement that there’s no pressure to maintain regular sex if we’re ill, so I’m not sure if it’s because he’s missing it but every time I try to kiss him he assumes I’m trying to initiate sex. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this, I’m the sort of person who’s always up for it but sometimes I just want to kiss and cuddle, I don’t want him thinking I’m always trying to turn it into something more.

Any advise is appreciated, I feel its messing with our intimacy levels because I know he’s not wanting sex multiple times a week, but he’s assuming every time I kiss him that I’m trying to lure him to bed, so I’ve stopped kissing and cuddling so he’s not under as much pressure.

I do have a way higher libido than my partner, but after a few talks it’s not been an issue, I understand his needs and I felt he understands mine, right up until recently.

We both got very unwell, I ended up in hospital for a couple of weeks and when I got out I went to go visit family for a bit as it was already planned, when I got back I was still ill, and he has sustained a gym injury which meant we’d had very little want or ability to have sex for about a month, which has never happened in our relationship before.

It’s always been an agreement that there’s no pressure to maintain regular sex if we’re ill, so I’m not sure if it’s because he’s missing it but every time I try to kiss him he assumes I’m trying to initiate sex. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this, I’m the sort of person who’s always up for it but sometimes I just want to kiss and cuddle, I don’t want him thinking I’m always trying to turn it into something more.

Any advise is appreciated, I feel its messing with our intimacy levels because I know he’s not wanting sex multiple times a week, but he’s assuming every time I kiss him that I’m trying to lure him to bed, so I’ve stopped kissing and cuddling so he’s not under as much pressure.