Me and my boyfriend (M34) have been together for 4 months now, and it’s going great!
However, there is something I’m not sure how to approach. Compared to other men I’ve been with, he doesn’t get as hard. He’s never ‘rock solid’ like previous partners. The first few times we had sex, he was really nervous and lost his erection – I never blamed him for it and reassured him it was fine. We got past that, and now he gets hard-ish easily but after a while it goes softer, especially during piv and when I’m on top.
He doesn’t often finish from piv – he has done a few times but usually we end with me giving him a blow job or a hand job. Even when he finishes he’s quite soft (from what I’m used to) which is something I’ve never really come across, and I guess shows it’s not an attraction issue…
During piv sometimes he’ll say that he’s really hard, when I don’t think he is?! So I’m guessing this is how it’s always been for him. There’s no problem with libido, and I know for a fact he’s turned on.
I’ve read about death grip, and kind of think it could be that, although the fact that he’s quite soft when he eventually finishes makes me think it might not be??
The other thing I’m not sure of is how to bring the topic up, because if we can do anything to improve it then I’d hope we could try. I’d love to be able to sort it as it makes piv a bit difficult sometimes as he slips out easily and is sometimes too soft for it. Also being on top is my favourite position.
I don’t know how to approach it as he doesn’t seem to indicate that he thinks there’s a problem, and the last thing I want to do is make him worried about being too soft, or think I don’t enjoy sex with him because I really do!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!
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r/sex Me and my boyfriend (M34) have been together for 4 months now, and it’s going great! However, there is something I’m not sure how to approach. Compared to other men I’ve been with, he doesn’t get as hard. He’s never ‘rock solid’ like previous partners. The first few times we had sex, he was really nervous and lost his erection – I never blamed him for it and reassured him it was fine. We got past that, and now he gets hard-ish easily but after a while it goes softer, especially during piv and when I’m on top. He doesn’t often finish from piv – he has done a few times but usually we end with me giving him a blow job or a hand job. Even when he finishes he’s quite soft (from what I’m used to) which is something I’ve never really come across, and I guess shows it’s not an attraction issue… During piv sometimes he’ll say that he’s really hard, when I don’t think he is?! So I’m guessing this is how it’s always been for him. There’s no problem with libido, and I know for a fact he’s turned on. I’ve read about death grip, and kind of think it could be that, although the fact that he’s quite soft when he eventually finishes makes me think it might not be?? The other thing I’m not sure of is how to bring the topic up, because if we can do anything to improve it then I’d hope we could try. I’d love to be able to sort it as it makes piv a bit difficult sometimes as he slips out easily and is sometimes too soft for it. Also being on top is my favourite position. I don’t know how to approach it as he doesn’t seem to indicate that he thinks there’s a problem, and the last thing I want to do is make him worried about being too soft, or think I don’t enjoy sex with him because I really do! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!! submitted by /u/Puzzleheaded-Top401 [link] [comments]
Me and my boyfriend (M34) have been together for 4 months now, and it’s going great!
However, there is something I’m not sure how to approach. Compared to other men I’ve been with, he doesn’t get as hard. He’s never ‘rock solid’ like previous partners. The first few times we had sex, he was really nervous and lost his erection – I never blamed him for it and reassured him it was fine. We got past that, and now he gets hard-ish easily but after a while it goes softer, especially during piv and when I’m on top.
He doesn’t often finish from piv – he has done a few times but usually we end with me giving him a blow job or a hand job. Even when he finishes he’s quite soft (from what I’m used to) which is something I’ve never really come across, and I guess shows it’s not an attraction issue…
During piv sometimes he’ll say that he’s really hard, when I don’t think he is?! So I’m guessing this is how it’s always been for him. There’s no problem with libido, and I know for a fact he’s turned on.
I’ve read about death grip, and kind of think it could be that, although the fact that he’s quite soft when he eventually finishes makes me think it might not be??
The other thing I’m not sure of is how to bring the topic up, because if we can do anything to improve it then I’d hope we could try. I’d love to be able to sort it as it makes piv a bit difficult sometimes as he slips out easily and is sometimes too soft for it. Also being on top is my favourite position.
I don’t know how to approach it as he doesn’t seem to indicate that he thinks there’s a problem, and the last thing I want to do is make him worried about being too soft, or think I don’t enjoy sex with him because I really do!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!
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