love my partner, hate the sex /u/Result-Glittering Sex

so I’ve been with my partner for 2 years now but never thought to ask this because I never wanted to admit it was a problem. but now I’m realising it might be.

i absolutely love my partner and feel like we have a great connection because we have similar family backgrounds and I feel extremely understood with him. the only problem is the sex

1) we only have sex as often as he wants it. I’m always expressing that I want more sex but he doesn’t respond whenever I initiate foreplay. I find this strange because he masturbates to porn every single day (sometimes twice) but doesn’t want to have sex.

2) we have very bad foreplay. for some reason, I’m always going down on him but he doesn’t go down on me. and he always penetrates when I’m still dry as a bone.

3) I’m always the one moaning and expressing myself with facial expressions etc during sex but he doesn’t and sometimes it just becomes plain awkward during because I don’t know if he’s enjoying it /he’s not reaching climax and it makes me feel like a really bad partner.

4) I always ask him how I can do better or what he’d like more of but he’s always telling me it’s okay and doesn’t ask me back.

I just feel very unsatisfied physically and emotionally because as much as he’s not fulfilling my needs, I’m unsure if I am fulfilling his either even though I accommodate to him and let him take the lead on when and how we have sex all the time. I’ve never had to fake my orgasms so much before. I always thought I was decent at sex because I had great sex and great reviews from all my previous partners. but this is really affecting my self esteem. so I just wanted to ask objectively: is it my problem? is it his performance anxiety? how do I bring it up to him in a way that doesn’t hurt his confidence ?

so I’ve been with my partner for 2 years now but never thought to ask this because I never wanted to admit it was a problem. but now I’m realising it might be.

i absolutely love my partner and feel like we have a great connection because we have similar family backgrounds and I feel extremely understood with him. the only problem is the sex

1) we only have sex as often as he wants it. I’m always expressing that I want more sex but he doesn’t respond whenever I initiate foreplay. I find this strange because he masturbates to porn every single day (sometimes twice) but doesn’t want to have sex.

2) we have very bad foreplay. for some reason, I’m always going down on him but he doesn’t go down on me. and he always penetrates when I’m still dry as a bone.

3) I’m always the one moaning and expressing myself with facial expressions etc during sex but he doesn’t and sometimes it just becomes plain awkward during because I don’t know if he’s enjoying it /he’s not reaching climax and it makes me feel like a really bad partner.

4) I always ask him how I can do better or what he’d like more of but he’s always telling me it’s okay and doesn’t ask me back.

I just feel very unsatisfied physically and emotionally because as much as he’s not fulfilling my needs, I’m unsure if I am fulfilling his either even though I accommodate to him and let him take the lead on when and how we have sex all the time. I’ve never had to fake my orgasms so much before. I always thought I was decent at sex because I had great sex and great reviews from all my previous partners. but this is really affecting my self esteem. so I just wanted to ask objectively: is it my problem? is it his performance anxiety? how do I bring it up to him in a way that doesn’t hurt his confidence ?