My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. When we first started dating our sex life was great. He is gentle and loving and it was refreshing for me to experience that. I’m usually a litter kinkier, but it’s not something I need in order to be fulfilled (I just think it can make thing a little more fun). My boyfriend was pretty clear that he’s not really kinky, he says he’s “more conservative in the bedroom”. Which I am/was okay with. I have a high sex drive and need to be intimate with my partner at the very least once a week for me to feel fulfilled. For the first 5 months of our relationship he was meeting my needs and I was so happy with our sex life. But it slowed down a lot after that 5 month mark. We started going 4-6 weeks between sessions. Our sex is no longer passionate. It’s awkward and I feel completely uncomfortable the whole time. This could be because I got really really insecure when we stopped being intimate. I tried so many times to initiate and he shut me down every single time. It made me feel really ugly and unwanted. The thought that he doesn’t find me sexually attractive anymore goes through my head every day. Any time I bring up our sex life (whether it be directly or indirectly) he always changes the subject. It’s impossible to have a conversation about it with him.
I should mention, I DON’T think he’s cheating on me. We live together and I work from home, so I know he’s not bringing someone home during work hours. He comes home from work the same time every night and calls me immediately after he’s off, and we talk while he drives home. Because of all of this, it’s very improbable that he’s cheating.
Part of me feels like he was satiating my desires and he just got tired of it? There was no singular event that changed things, and honestly I can’t think of anything that would have caused this shift. That’s why I’ve come to the conclusion that we just aren’t sexually compatible.
So here’s where I need help. I love him, he’s the most amazing person I’ve ever been with. He literally meets every other one of my needs except this one. I don’t want to leave him, but I can already feel the resentment building. I’m at a loss. He’s resistant to a conversation, so I don’t even feel like I can talk to him about it. Can anyone give me advice on how to navigate this situation?
TLDR: my boyfriend isn’t meeting my sexual needs and I’m starting to resent him for it. Advice?
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r/sex My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. When we first started dating our sex life was great. He is gentle and loving and it was refreshing for me to experience that. I’m usually a litter kinkier, but it’s not something I need in order to be fulfilled (I just think it can make thing a little more fun). My boyfriend was pretty clear that he’s not really kinky, he says he’s “more conservative in the bedroom”. Which I am/was okay with. I have a high sex drive and need to be intimate with my partner at the very least once a week for me to feel fulfilled. For the first 5 months of our relationship he was meeting my needs and I was so happy with our sex life. But it slowed down a lot after that 5 month mark. We started going 4-6 weeks between sessions. Our sex is no longer passionate. It’s awkward and I feel completely uncomfortable the whole time. This could be because I got really really insecure when we stopped being intimate. I tried so many times to initiate and he shut me down every single time. It made me feel really ugly and unwanted. The thought that he doesn’t find me sexually attractive anymore goes through my head every day. Any time I bring up our sex life (whether it be directly or indirectly) he always changes the subject. It’s impossible to have a conversation about it with him. I should mention, I DON’T think he’s cheating on me. We live together and I work from home, so I know he’s not bringing someone home during work hours. He comes home from work the same time every night and calls me immediately after he’s off, and we talk while he drives home. Because of all of this, it’s very improbable that he’s cheating. Part of me feels like he was satiating my desires and he just got tired of it? There was no singular event that changed things, and honestly I can’t think of anything that would have caused this shift. That’s why I’ve come to the conclusion that we just aren’t sexually compatible. So here’s where I need help. I love him, he’s the most amazing person I’ve ever been with. He literally meets every other one of my needs except this one. I don’t want to leave him, but I can already feel the resentment building. I’m at a loss. He’s resistant to a conversation, so I don’t even feel like I can talk to him about it. Can anyone give me advice on how to navigate this situation? TLDR: my boyfriend isn’t meeting my sexual needs and I’m starting to resent him for it. Advice? submitted by /u/ThrowRA_KB77 [link] [comments]
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. When we first started dating our sex life was great. He is gentle and loving and it was refreshing for me to experience that. I’m usually a litter kinkier, but it’s not something I need in order to be fulfilled (I just think it can make thing a little more fun). My boyfriend was pretty clear that he’s not really kinky, he says he’s “more conservative in the bedroom”. Which I am/was okay with. I have a high sex drive and need to be intimate with my partner at the very least once a week for me to feel fulfilled. For the first 5 months of our relationship he was meeting my needs and I was so happy with our sex life. But it slowed down a lot after that 5 month mark. We started going 4-6 weeks between sessions. Our sex is no longer passionate. It’s awkward and I feel completely uncomfortable the whole time. This could be because I got really really insecure when we stopped being intimate. I tried so many times to initiate and he shut me down every single time. It made me feel really ugly and unwanted. The thought that he doesn’t find me sexually attractive anymore goes through my head every day. Any time I bring up our sex life (whether it be directly or indirectly) he always changes the subject. It’s impossible to have a conversation about it with him.
I should mention, I DON’T think he’s cheating on me. We live together and I work from home, so I know he’s not bringing someone home during work hours. He comes home from work the same time every night and calls me immediately after he’s off, and we talk while he drives home. Because of all of this, it’s very improbable that he’s cheating.
Part of me feels like he was satiating my desires and he just got tired of it? There was no singular event that changed things, and honestly I can’t think of anything that would have caused this shift. That’s why I’ve come to the conclusion that we just aren’t sexually compatible.
So here’s where I need help. I love him, he’s the most amazing person I’ve ever been with. He literally meets every other one of my needs except this one. I don’t want to leave him, but I can already feel the resentment building. I’m at a loss. He’s resistant to a conversation, so I don’t even feel like I can talk to him about it. Can anyone give me advice on how to navigate this situation?
TLDR: my boyfriend isn’t meeting my sexual needs and I’m starting to resent him for it. Advice?
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