My wife and I have been married for 13 years and were dating for 6 years before that, so we’ve been exclusive for nearly our entire adult lives.
She has recently been diagnosed with PCOS and it’s really affecting her libido. I’m the one who has to initiate sex, and she’s told me on more than one occasion that she really doesn’t want to have sex sometimes but just goes along with it because I do.
This is absolutely destroying me. I cannot stop thinking about my wife not wanting to have sex with me anymore and essentially becoming a cohabitating parent. I need to feel wanted and desired by my wife, a lot of my self worth is wrapped up in that for better or worse.
I don’t see a change to this in the future, and it’s difficult to talk to her about it. PCOS is her medical condition and should rightly take the spotlight, I don’t want to make it about me.
Telling her that I need her to show sexual attraction to me is the opposite of what I’m looking for. I don’t want her to force herself to engage with me because she feels its her duty. I want her to want me. I need her to need me, etc. How can I help her or help our relationship?
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r/sex My wife and I have been married for 13 years and were dating for 6 years before that, so we’ve been exclusive for nearly our entire adult lives. She has recently been diagnosed with PCOS and it’s really affecting her libido. I’m the one who has to initiate sex, and she’s told me on more than one occasion that she really doesn’t want to have sex sometimes but just goes along with it because I do. This is absolutely destroying me. I cannot stop thinking about my wife not wanting to have sex with me anymore and essentially becoming a cohabitating parent. I need to feel wanted and desired by my wife, a lot of my self worth is wrapped up in that for better or worse. I don’t see a change to this in the future, and it’s difficult to talk to her about it. PCOS is her medical condition and should rightly take the spotlight, I don’t want to make it about me. Telling her that I need her to show sexual attraction to me is the opposite of what I’m looking for. I don’t want her to force herself to engage with me because she feels its her duty. I want her to want me. I need her to need me, etc. How can I help her or help our relationship? submitted by /u/tyco_brahe [link] [comments]
My wife and I have been married for 13 years and were dating for 6 years before that, so we’ve been exclusive for nearly our entire adult lives.
She has recently been diagnosed with PCOS and it’s really affecting her libido. I’m the one who has to initiate sex, and she’s told me on more than one occasion that she really doesn’t want to have sex sometimes but just goes along with it because I do.
This is absolutely destroying me. I cannot stop thinking about my wife not wanting to have sex with me anymore and essentially becoming a cohabitating parent. I need to feel wanted and desired by my wife, a lot of my self worth is wrapped up in that for better or worse.
I don’t see a change to this in the future, and it’s difficult to talk to her about it. PCOS is her medical condition and should rightly take the spotlight, I don’t want to make it about me.
Telling her that I need her to show sexual attraction to me is the opposite of what I’m looking for. I don’t want her to force herself to engage with me because she feels its her duty. I want her to want me. I need her to need me, etc. How can I help her or help our relationship?
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