I’m 21, my gf is 20. We’ve been together for about 5 years and are happily in love. I don’t know how often other couples have sex, but for the most part it’s just something we’re on and off about. Sex isn’t a priority to her, in fact it’s not even in the top 1000 things she cares about. Having been abused as a child, it’s understandable. Me and her are on the same page. Most importantly i care about her, i respect her.
For the times we Do have sex though, they mostly play out the same way. She only wants to ride/missionary, and after a bit she gets tired/overwhelmed and says that We should stop. I never question her, though there’s always awkwardness after, only because it ends so abruptly. She always blames herself and assumes i’m upset at her. Which i’m not. As fucked up as it sounds i’m not the best at reassuring during uncomfortable moments, i just never know what to say. I don’t blame her at all, but i wanna be able to show her i’m not upset or mad at her for her not wanting to continue. What should i do?
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r/sex I’m 21, my gf is 20. We’ve been together for about 5 years and are happily in love. I don’t know how often other couples have sex, but for the most part it’s just something we’re on and off about. Sex isn’t a priority to her, in fact it’s not even in the top 1000 things she cares about. Having been abused as a child, it’s understandable. Me and her are on the same page. Most importantly i care about her, i respect her. For the times we Do have sex though, they mostly play out the same way. She only wants to ride/missionary, and after a bit she gets tired/overwhelmed and says that We should stop. I never question her, though there’s always awkwardness after, only because it ends so abruptly. She always blames herself and assumes i’m upset at her. Which i’m not. As fucked up as it sounds i’m not the best at reassuring during uncomfortable moments, i just never know what to say. I don’t blame her at all, but i wanna be able to show her i’m not upset or mad at her for her not wanting to continue. What should i do? submitted by /u/InglouriousPP [link] [comments]
I’m 21, my gf is 20. We’ve been together for about 5 years and are happily in love. I don’t know how often other couples have sex, but for the most part it’s just something we’re on and off about. Sex isn’t a priority to her, in fact it’s not even in the top 1000 things she cares about. Having been abused as a child, it’s understandable. Me and her are on the same page. Most importantly i care about her, i respect her.
For the times we Do have sex though, they mostly play out the same way. She only wants to ride/missionary, and after a bit she gets tired/overwhelmed and says that We should stop. I never question her, though there’s always awkwardness after, only because it ends so abruptly. She always blames herself and assumes i’m upset at her. Which i’m not. As fucked up as it sounds i’m not the best at reassuring during uncomfortable moments, i just never know what to say. I don’t blame her at all, but i wanna be able to show her i’m not upset or mad at her for her not wanting to continue. What should i do?
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