Having trouble with sex with a virgin, should I continue to try or move on? /u/Mally_Is_Here Sex

I started seeing this guy. At the time, we were both 23 years old. After a few dates, he told me that he was a virgin. I had two previous sexual partners, so I was not, and already pretty much knew what I liked sexually. I didn’t really think much about it at the time, as I didn’t consider it a deal breaker. Before we ever got intimate, we had conversations about boundaries and what he’d like to explore versus what I like/dislike. For our first time together, it was pretty vanilla. It wasn’t too great, but it was his first time, so I let it go. He ended up getting frustrated because he couldn’t finish. I didn’t, either, but I didn’t think too much about it at the time. Well, after about two more intimate encounters, he was still frustrated that he couldn’t finish, and didn’t understand why. He accused me of being “too loose” which pissed me off because it felt like he was accusing me of him not being able to finish because I’ve had sex before. I guess he eventually figured out it was because he would masturbate too much before we had sex. So, he cut back on that, and was finally able to finish. However, I still never did. Eventually, I brought up some mild kinks that I had. I told him that I like to be blindfolded and I’m very submissive and like when the guy takes control. Throughout some more sex, I realized he seemed to be more submissive as well and always wanted me to take control. He was also horrible at initiating sex. He would literally just turn and say “wanna fuck?” No! At least try to build the mood? I think it all comes down to his inexperience. I still never finished with him. I do not know if we should try more, or if it’s just a lost cause at this point. I just feel we’re incapable, especially if we’re both more submissive. I just feel very sexually frustrated whenever I’m with him.

I started seeing this guy. At the time, we were both 23 years old. After a few dates, he told me that he was a virgin. I had two previous sexual partners, so I was not, and already pretty much knew what I liked sexually. I didn’t really think much about it at the time, as I didn’t consider it a deal breaker. Before we ever got intimate, we had conversations about boundaries and what he’d like to explore versus what I like/dislike. For our first time together, it was pretty vanilla. It wasn’t too great, but it was his first time, so I let it go. He ended up getting frustrated because he couldn’t finish. I didn’t, either, but I didn’t think too much about it at the time. Well, after about two more intimate encounters, he was still frustrated that he couldn’t finish, and didn’t understand why. He accused me of being “too loose” which pissed me off because it felt like he was accusing me of him not being able to finish because I’ve had sex before. I guess he eventually figured out it was because he would masturbate too much before we had sex. So, he cut back on that, and was finally able to finish. However, I still never did. Eventually, I brought up some mild kinks that I had. I told him that I like to be blindfolded and I’m very submissive and like when the guy takes control. Throughout some more sex, I realized he seemed to be more submissive as well and always wanted me to take control. He was also horrible at initiating sex. He would literally just turn and say “wanna fuck?” No! At least try to build the mood? I think it all comes down to his inexperience. I still never finished with him. I do not know if we should try more, or if it’s just a lost cause at this point. I just feel we’re incapable, especially if we’re both more submissive. I just feel very sexually frustrated whenever I’m with him.