Hi everyone. I [18F], just asked a guy [19M] if he wants to hook up next time he’s in town. For some context, I’ve known him since freshman year and we had a thing the entirety of high school. We never acted on it but the tension was there and we were both very supportive and present for each other whenever the other needed to rant, and have always respected each other. He went off to college last fall across the country and before he did I kinda confessed how I felt to him. We’ve always hinted at the tension we both knew was there, and I don’t know why I never made a move. He said he always felt the same way but he’s focusing on himself at least until he graduates. I completely understand that and left it at that. I really just wanted to get it off my chest so that was really relieving. Since he moved my feeling have dissipated and I’ve dated others, so I feel like me hooking up with him wouldn’t be a bad idea. Anyway, I haven’t had sex in almost a year and I feel like I’m going feral. I really don’t like hooking up with people I don’t know well, so that was never an option for me. Getting in a relationship right now is also not realistic because I leave for college in a few months. I decided to ask him because I trust him and I figure we’re both experienced enough for it to actually be fun. I’m really comfortable around him and he comes home often enough for us to not have to wait too long. He without hesitation said yes and that felt good to know he wants me too. However, now that I’ve asked I’ve started overthinking everything. I’ve convinced myself he’s going to lose respect for me and stop seeing me as a friend, and instead as something to fuck. I know that’s not true and he has a soft spot for me, but figured I’d get some other opinions on whether or not this is a good idea. I’m doing this for my pleasure and know I shouldn’t care now that he’s excitedly said yes, but don’t want to do anything that will ruin our friendship. I want him so bad physically, it’s hard to ignore now that I know he wants me too. What do you guys think? Has anyone been in a similar position? I don’t know whether or not to call it off.
TL;DR for your convenience lol: I’ve asked a guy I’ve been close with since freshman year whether or not he wants to hookup. We’ve always been close and cared about each other, but have had sexual tension since forever. It seems appealing because I’m very comfortable with him (I have a hard time hooking up with strangers and haven’t had sex in a year). He happily said yes and now I’m overthinking it and am convinced he’s going to see me as a fuck toy, and we won’t be friends anymore. I don’t want to ruin the friendship but want him so bad. Should I call it off? Has anyone been in this position (his or mine), what did you do?
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r/sex Hi everyone. I [18F], just asked a guy [19M] if he wants to hook up next time he’s in town. For some context, I’ve known him since freshman year and we had a thing the entirety of high school. We never acted on it but the tension was there and we were both very supportive and present for each other whenever the other needed to rant, and have always respected each other. He went off to college last fall across the country and before he did I kinda confessed how I felt to him. We’ve always hinted at the tension we both knew was there, and I don’t know why I never made a move. He said he always felt the same way but he’s focusing on himself at least until he graduates. I completely understand that and left it at that. I really just wanted to get it off my chest so that was really relieving. Since he moved my feeling have dissipated and I’ve dated others, so I feel like me hooking up with him wouldn’t be a bad idea. Anyway, I haven’t had sex in almost a year and I feel like I’m going feral. I really don’t like hooking up with people I don’t know well, so that was never an option for me. Getting in a relationship right now is also not realistic because I leave for college in a few months. I decided to ask him because I trust him and I figure we’re both experienced enough for it to actually be fun. I’m really comfortable around him and he comes home often enough for us to not have to wait too long. He without hesitation said yes and that felt good to know he wants me too. However, now that I’ve asked I’ve started overthinking everything. I’ve convinced myself he’s going to lose respect for me and stop seeing me as a friend, and instead as something to fuck. I know that’s not true and he has a soft spot for me, but figured I’d get some other opinions on whether or not this is a good idea. I’m doing this for my pleasure and know I shouldn’t care now that he’s excitedly said yes, but don’t want to do anything that will ruin our friendship. I want him so bad physically, it’s hard to ignore now that I know he wants me too. What do you guys think? Has anyone been in a similar position? I don’t know whether or not to call it off. TL;DR for your convenience lol: I’ve asked a guy I’ve been close with since freshman year whether or not he wants to hookup. We’ve always been close and cared about each other, but have had sexual tension since forever. It seems appealing because I’m very comfortable with him (I have a hard time hooking up with strangers and haven’t had sex in a year). He happily said yes and now I’m overthinking it and am convinced he’s going to see me as a fuck toy, and we won’t be friends anymore. I don’t want to ruin the friendship but want him so bad. Should I call it off? Has anyone been in this position (his or mine), what did you do? submitted by /u/Professional-Pea5259 [link] [comments]
Hi everyone. I [18F], just asked a guy [19M] if he wants to hook up next time he’s in town. For some context, I’ve known him since freshman year and we had a thing the entirety of high school. We never acted on it but the tension was there and we were both very supportive and present for each other whenever the other needed to rant, and have always respected each other. He went off to college last fall across the country and before he did I kinda confessed how I felt to him. We’ve always hinted at the tension we both knew was there, and I don’t know why I never made a move. He said he always felt the same way but he’s focusing on himself at least until he graduates. I completely understand that and left it at that. I really just wanted to get it off my chest so that was really relieving. Since he moved my feeling have dissipated and I’ve dated others, so I feel like me hooking up with him wouldn’t be a bad idea. Anyway, I haven’t had sex in almost a year and I feel like I’m going feral. I really don’t like hooking up with people I don’t know well, so that was never an option for me. Getting in a relationship right now is also not realistic because I leave for college in a few months. I decided to ask him because I trust him and I figure we’re both experienced enough for it to actually be fun. I’m really comfortable around him and he comes home often enough for us to not have to wait too long. He without hesitation said yes and that felt good to know he wants me too. However, now that I’ve asked I’ve started overthinking everything. I’ve convinced myself he’s going to lose respect for me and stop seeing me as a friend, and instead as something to fuck. I know that’s not true and he has a soft spot for me, but figured I’d get some other opinions on whether or not this is a good idea. I’m doing this for my pleasure and know I shouldn’t care now that he’s excitedly said yes, but don’t want to do anything that will ruin our friendship. I want him so bad physically, it’s hard to ignore now that I know he wants me too. What do you guys think? Has anyone been in a similar position? I don’t know whether or not to call it off.
TL;DR for your convenience lol: I’ve asked a guy I’ve been close with since freshman year whether or not he wants to hookup. We’ve always been close and cared about each other, but have had sexual tension since forever. It seems appealing because I’m very comfortable with him (I have a hard time hooking up with strangers and haven’t had sex in a year). He happily said yes and now I’m overthinking it and am convinced he’s going to see me as a fuck toy, and we won’t be friends anymore. I don’t want to ruin the friendship but want him so bad. Should I call it off? Has anyone been in this position (his or mine), what did you do?
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