I love sex but i dont want to have sex help /u/Dizzy_Fox7778 Sex

Hi!

I used to have a very high libido, ever since i started having sex, which is about 6 years ago. My previous boyfriends would get tired of it, and id feel gross for having such a high sex drive. In the last 1-2 years ive been trying to heal my relationship to sex, and i think i have a much healthier mindset around it now.

When i met my boyfriend a year ago it was perfect, (in all ways but focusing on the sex now), because he also has a very high libido and we would have sex like 4-7 times a day, almost every day for 6 months, during the summer we were both super sick for like a month and only had sex twice bc of it, and we both figured it would go back to «normal», but my libido was so much lower, and we ended up usually having sex 1-3 times a day, but it would take a lot of initating attempts from his side and i would feel bad. Now we often go days without, but he tries to initate everytime we hang out. He never pressures me or gets sad/mad if i dont want to, but i know sex is imortant to him, and it is to me to, so i feel bad.

We usually have really good sex, we experiment alot, we know what each other like, but we can also have really cozy loving sex. I have no issues with him, he is the loml, and i find him very attractive, innteligent, kind and caring but i just start getting stressed the second i realise his trying to initate sex.

Yesterday was the last straw for me. We had barely seen eachother for a week, which might not seem that long but we usually spend like 4-7 days a week together and both are massive simps that miss the other after half a day. So i was excited to see him again and figured we were gonna have sex. First time he tried was kinda goofy so i just kinda joked it away, second time i was like «hmm later» and it was laso kinda a goofy attempt. Third attempt he was sweet and sexy and romantic and did everything right and i just started crying bc i felt so bad bc he was trying so much and obviously sexually frustrated but trying not to show it, he saw me crying, stopped and asked what it was, and then comforted me and we watched a movie. I dont understand whats going on?

I love sex, i love him, i love sex with him, but my body just doesnt want to lately and i dont know how to fix it, im already trying to balance my hormones, i sleep, i manage my stress, i exercise, im not on hormonal bc or any medications that could cause this so what else is there left to try to fix it? Any advice is highly appreciated <3

Hi!

I used to have a very high libido, ever since i started having sex, which is about 6 years ago. My previous boyfriends would get tired of it, and id feel gross for having such a high sex drive. In the last 1-2 years ive been trying to heal my relationship to sex, and i think i have a much healthier mindset around it now.

When i met my boyfriend a year ago it was perfect, (in all ways but focusing on the sex now), because he also has a very high libido and we would have sex like 4-7 times a day, almost every day for 6 months, during the summer we were both super sick for like a month and only had sex twice bc of it, and we both figured it would go back to «normal», but my libido was so much lower, and we ended up usually having sex 1-3 times a day, but it would take a lot of initating attempts from his side and i would feel bad. Now we often go days without, but he tries to initate everytime we hang out. He never pressures me or gets sad/mad if i dont want to, but i know sex is imortant to him, and it is to me to, so i feel bad.

We usually have really good sex, we experiment alot, we know what each other like, but we can also have really cozy loving sex. I have no issues with him, he is the loml, and i find him very attractive, innteligent, kind and caring but i just start getting stressed the second i realise his trying to initate sex.

Yesterday was the last straw for me. We had barely seen eachother for a week, which might not seem that long but we usually spend like 4-7 days a week together and both are massive simps that miss the other after half a day. So i was excited to see him again and figured we were gonna have sex. First time he tried was kinda goofy so i just kinda joked it away, second time i was like «hmm later» and it was laso kinda a goofy attempt. Third attempt he was sweet and sexy and romantic and did everything right and i just started crying bc i felt so bad bc he was trying so much and obviously sexually frustrated but trying not to show it, he saw me crying, stopped and asked what it was, and then comforted me and we watched a movie. I dont understand whats going on?

I love sex, i love him, i love sex with him, but my body just doesnt want to lately and i dont know how to fix it, im already trying to balance my hormones, i sleep, i manage my stress, i exercise, im not on hormonal bc or any medications that could cause this so what else is there left to try to fix it? Any advice is highly appreciated <3