Last night my wife and I had some really good sex. Context: my wife for our 12 years of marriage has a firm opinion against anal sex. Very firm. No problem, I respect that. Lately she has opened up and has enjoyed my fingers in the area of her butt. For example, if she is on top I can reach around and gently stroke her butthole. She has said that sometimes this feels really good. Cool, she’s opened up a bit, I’m glad she’s found something new she likes.
Last night it was that exact scenario. But this time she rotated her butt around my finger and put pressure against my finger. I paused and I asked her, do you like that? She said yes. I push just ever so slightly and about a quarter of an inch of my finger goes in her butt. I asked her, is this okay? She says yes. We keep going and my finger stays in that same exact spot. I don’t go any deeper, I just stay there. We both climax and say that was fun. We BOTH agree on this fact pattern, there is no dispute about the above sequence of events.
What comes next is where the dispute comes into play. We are sitting up post sex talking and I ask again, did you like that? And she goes, yes, but wait where was your finger? I tell her, in your butt. She starts to get really really agitated and confused. She says she thought my finger was in her vagina. She is so very upset with me saying I crossed the boundry because she has said in the past she never wants anything up her butt.
We BOTH agree it was good sex and we BOTH agree that I asked, i.e consent. She claims it was wrong because she misunderstood where my finger actually was.
Did I do something wrong? Did I screw up? I’m so confused because she had a great time and was until it until she realized where my finger actually was. I find it so odd she didn’t know I was by her butt and not vagina.
Thoughts?
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r/sex Last night my wife and I had some really good sex. Context: my wife for our 12 years of marriage has a firm opinion against anal sex. Very firm. No problem, I respect that. Lately she has opened up and has enjoyed my fingers in the area of her butt. For example, if she is on top I can reach around and gently stroke her butthole. She has said that sometimes this feels really good. Cool, she’s opened up a bit, I’m glad she’s found something new she likes. Last night it was that exact scenario. But this time she rotated her butt around my finger and put pressure against my finger. I paused and I asked her, do you like that? She said yes. I push just ever so slightly and about a quarter of an inch of my finger goes in her butt. I asked her, is this okay? She says yes. We keep going and my finger stays in that same exact spot. I don’t go any deeper, I just stay there. We both climax and say that was fun. We BOTH agree on this fact pattern, there is no dispute about the above sequence of events. What comes next is where the dispute comes into play. We are sitting up post sex talking and I ask again, did you like that? And she goes, yes, but wait where was your finger? I tell her, in your butt. She starts to get really really agitated and confused. She says she thought my finger was in her vagina. She is so very upset with me saying I crossed the boundry because she has said in the past she never wants anything up her butt. We BOTH agree it was good sex and we BOTH agree that I asked, i.e consent. She claims it was wrong because she misunderstood where my finger actually was. Did I do something wrong? Did I screw up? I’m so confused because she had a great time and was until it until she realized where my finger actually was. I find it so odd she didn’t know I was by her butt and not vagina. Thoughts? submitted by /u/c0ld_brew_c0ffee5 [link] [comments]
Last night my wife and I had some really good sex. Context: my wife for our 12 years of marriage has a firm opinion against anal sex. Very firm. No problem, I respect that. Lately she has opened up and has enjoyed my fingers in the area of her butt. For example, if she is on top I can reach around and gently stroke her butthole. She has said that sometimes this feels really good. Cool, she’s opened up a bit, I’m glad she’s found something new she likes.
Last night it was that exact scenario. But this time she rotated her butt around my finger and put pressure against my finger. I paused and I asked her, do you like that? She said yes. I push just ever so slightly and about a quarter of an inch of my finger goes in her butt. I asked her, is this okay? She says yes. We keep going and my finger stays in that same exact spot. I don’t go any deeper, I just stay there. We both climax and say that was fun. We BOTH agree on this fact pattern, there is no dispute about the above sequence of events.
What comes next is where the dispute comes into play. We are sitting up post sex talking and I ask again, did you like that? And she goes, yes, but wait where was your finger? I tell her, in your butt. She starts to get really really agitated and confused. She says she thought my finger was in her vagina. She is so very upset with me saying I crossed the boundry because she has said in the past she never wants anything up her butt.
We BOTH agree it was good sex and we BOTH agree that I asked, i.e consent. She claims it was wrong because she misunderstood where my finger actually was.
Did I do something wrong? Did I screw up? I’m so confused because she had a great time and was until it until she realized where my finger actually was. I find it so odd she didn’t know I was by her butt and not vagina.
Thoughts?
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